Can someone explain how some posts can get over 6,000 hits and others get zero? Is this subforum working? Did I write the wrong stuff in my post? Am I supposed to be more pro-active?

If I'm missing something or doing something wrong or NOT doing something will someone eventually let me know?

Are you looking for a mentor? I am new to talk sites, but iI am doing OK with my band and I am an RN who can tell you the real deal info.

You're an angel! I'd love and appreciate your guidance.

If needed, I'd enjoy offering you encouragement!

I'm see the psych dr tomorrow. My surgeion thinks I am "mourning" my "best friend"...food. I wasn't sure if I should be insulted or relieved, I chose the latter. Unfortunately it makes sense. Can you believe it?!?!

Thanks, again!

Of course I'd appreciate your encouragement, who would turn it down! I've lost 40 pounds since Oct.08 but I think I am in need of 3rd fill as I keep losing and gaining the same 5 pounds. A nurse isn't able to follow her own sage advice. I do have several excerpts from a book titled Are You Hungry which I will E-mail you if you'd like. My e-mail is dkr53@aol.com.

Hi There,

I don't think you did anything wrong, because I've run into the same thing. I asked for a mentor/buddy and never got a response either. I post on other threads and get responses, so I don't know what the deal is. I'm an RN to, but I'm still not banded and need some emotional support.

Joan

Awwww...her need support?

Well her got it..lol That's why I posted here. I need a little xtra. I'd love to offer you some of that support. I'm pretty new and am learning a lot myself. But I'm getting a lot too. Have you made the final decision to get the band? Weighed the pros and cons? I see you have posted a WHOLE lot, so I'm sure you have learned a lot too. This forum has been my saving grace. Have an appointment with a psychologist next week to help me deal with what my surgeon calls my "mourning the loss of my best friend-food". At first I was insulted, then the clouds kinda opened up and honestly, I don't like what I am seeing. But I guess that goes with the territory, huh? Let's keep in touch ok?

Awwww...her need support?

Well her got it..lol That's why I posted here. I need a little xtra. I'd love to offer you some of that support. I'm pretty new and am learning a lot myself. But I'm getting a lot too. Have you made the final decision to get the band? Weighed the pros and cons? I see you have posted a WHOLE lot, so I'm sure you have learned a lot too. This forum has been my saving grace. Have an appointment with a psychologist next week to help me deal with what my surgeon calls my "mourning the loss of my best friend-food". At first I was insulted, then the clouds kinda opened up and honestly, I don't like what I am seeing. But I guess that goes with the territory, huh? Let's keep in touch ok?

Oh yes, I've definitely decided to get the band. My journey has been very long, over 2 years, but I can finally see light at the end of the tunnel. I have my surgeon, and am just waiting for the hospital where he practices to get their Center of Excellence certification that Medicare requires. He has done thousands of surgeries, but he moved to a different town. I have posted a lot, but I still need emotional support. I am looking for a local psychologist that specializes in weight loss to help me deal with the issues that caused me to gain so much weight to begin with. My surgeon is 300 miles away, so I definitely need to find someone local. Thanks so much for being willing to be a buddy. I think we all need 1.

Joan

I can't explain things for others but I know that I have been thinking about offering myself as a mentor/buddy (want to get to the 100lb down milestone first - not long to go!!) and I would find it very difficult to answer someone else's thread and say "how about me?" It feels too much like trying to sell yourself or being presumptuous to go "chasing" buddies to mentor. When the time comes, I shall put up a post that describes a bit about me and my approach to banded life and hope that my methods appeal to someone out there and they contact me.

Your post has made me reconsider this. Perhaps what I will do is make the "offer" post as described above and then find all the "want a mentor" posts that haven't received a response and post a link to my "offer". What do you think? Would that seem less like I was "soliciting" business? *feels awkward*

Fanny,

I don't think you should feel weird about offering to be mentor/buddy. There are lots of us out there who are just looking for emotional support when they get stressed. I think you would be a great mentor.

Joan