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porclndoll    0

porclndoll
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Hey guys. I just needed a place to vent~. I just found out today that I will not be going back to work at the high school. I was trying to get into a Hall Monitor position and I was to fill this one spot that was going to be great...the times worked perfectly for my son....7:00-1:30....When the job was posted, the Vice Principal of the school almost had me assured that the position was mine. Then all of a sudden, she calls me two weeks ago (maybe not a full two weeks) and tells me, your going to have to go thru an interview process for the job. She appologized to me, she didn't know, yadda yadda yadda. Well, the process consists of two interviews, her and Human Resources. I thought for sure that the position was mine, I got my salary agreement in the mail from the Super intendents office....well I get a call today saying, we are offering you the 12:30-7:00 position. Now...the guy that I am talking to was just transfered to the high school from the elementary school...I said WHAT? I had applied and thought I was interviewing for the other position...Brian, you came from my sons elementary school you know me and my situation, you know those hours aren't going to work for me...He said, oh well lemme check into something and I will call you back...He calls me back and tells me that they had to give the earlier shift to someone who "Brought more to the position".........and that a change wouldn't be taking place. I said, how in the hell am I supose to care for my son? Its bad enough that my husband works till midnight...so now he is supose to do without his mother AND his father? The guy that I was talking to didn't know what to say or how to respond.... So I said, Can I atleast be afforded the courtisy of having a few hours to let you know if I can work some thing out? I have been under the impression that I had a job come Sept 2nd and I was relying on my hours to be set. He said, well we are going to treat the job as if it is still open but if you can call me back...Call me by tomorrow and lemme know. I am thinking that I need to call our union. I dont even know if I am protected under the union any more since my job is a contractual position....I dunno...I just dunno what to do!!! In one way my left side of my brain is saying put up a fight, but the left side is saying....Just let it go, this is the door openning for a new opportunity. I am sooo upset because of all the kids I got close to....I wont be seeing them in September! I am just really beside myself! I counted on this all summer! Had I known it was going to be like this, I could have used my summer alittle wiser! I feel like I was raked over the coals though and Im not liking it. And another thing about the whole situation is that I live in New York....in the Hudson Valley...and jobs are not too plentiful out there.

I dunno Ill figure something out

Thanks to those who made it thru this posting! Really helped to vent!

TTYL

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I know how you feel... I interviewed for a transfer to another dept and now the head of the dept won't even return my e-mails asking if he has made a decision.

While I had no certain expectation of getting the job, I certainly thought I would get the courtesy of a response...

I hope it all works out for you. Aside from a good heart and a responsible attitude - what "more" is there to bring to the position of Hall Monitor? That really bites.

(((Hugs)))

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Well, there that just proves I would have brought more cause I was planning on bringing a baseball bat and a bull horn! That certainly out does a sling shot!!! THERE I WIN....(as if) This is messed up, the whole situation and I am going to contact the teachers associated union later today.......Thanks for listening!

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And carrying a baseball bat they wont get outta line...so i wouldn't have to use it! ehehehe....You see a 230 pound woman walking towards you with a baseball bat, your not gonna get out of line...ehehehe I called my union rep and left a voice mail. I dont know if it will get me anywhere, but hey, at least I wont feel like I rolled over for anyone! I know there were kids that I reached, that weren't exactly reachable!! So I belong in that job. They deserve me to work there!!! Sounds pretty egotysical, but ya know what, I know I was good at what I did... Mutual respect and thats what you need when your trying to maintain order. And hey, lets be honest....I need to work! I need the $$....In a state where jobs are few and far between,it would be stupid for me to roll over without contacting the union....

TTYL

THINKING HAPPY THOUGHTS!

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Like you said this could be the doorway to a new oppurtunity:0) Chin - up & fight for it a little & call the union & than if it doesn't work out- Place all your energy into finding that better position which is just waiting for you!

Best of luck to you

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Mita    2

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That really sucks.. OOPS

I would really like to know what is bring more to the job??? Not what you know but who you Know?? Hopefully all will work out... Keep us posted.

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Thanks Bubbame......I called the other union guy today (I had two contact names) and he is out on vacation till the day after Labor Day...thats the 6th I believe. Thats when students go back to school here. I was supose to start work on the 2nd. I will just wait it out and see what they say. This can go either way, and my husband is actually all right with what ever happens. I would be home more. I could get our son to and from school...I dont want him on a school bus yet...He is disabled and I dont want him on a bus till he can tell on people..:) I would be home to do all the house work...as if I dont do it now.....but it would be more scheduled and controlled...things are outta control now. Sooo we will see what happens. Theres a postitive and negative side to this. I gotta concentrate on the positive...I will keep ya posted...

Thanks again for the support!

TTYL

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