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Hi guys

Am having a bit of a freak out today. What if I don't lose weight? What if I have shelled out $16,000 and I don't lose weight and I get to be the size of the earth and am alone forever?

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awwh i know how you feel..but the question is why wont you lose the weight its totally up to you being fat is a fight...and becoming smaller is another fight i think if you can deal with being fat..you can work to lose the weight just take it day by day small goals for that day this will work for you

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I felt exactly the same way and here I am 60 pounds down. I won't lie to you it is hard, very hard. Every day is a struggle to make the right decisions , and to stay focused but it works. It's a tool , a tool that you must work with as well. Good luck to you , it will all work out.:blink:

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(BANDED APRIL 1st)

Hi there. I know that for me, when i arrived here in Lapbandville, it was because I have hit bottom. I am out of options. I've tried everything. Seems I can comply with a structured and strict weight loss program and i can lose weight. i can do it with a lot of willpower. but for me, this is the difference....i can't sustain that kind of will power for a lifetime.

my dr instructs us to do a 2 week pre op and a 2 week post op liquid diet. if you don't lose from that alone, you aren't drinking the right stuff and you should question your dr.

the band will help us to not overeat. the choices we make are still up to us.

the psych profile we go through is to determine those who are capable of compliance.

i am motivated by losing weight. the loss keeps me going. when i am to a certain point, i get too comfortable too early and cheat a little and the scale doesn't jump up right away. so i tend to cheat a little more. this will change here and now. IF i gain, and i might, i will not be too embarrased to go back to the dr. earlier rather than too late as in prior attempts. I will NOT wait until i lose it on my own to go back to the Dr. i will go in immediately and get a fill or counseling or go to a support group.

Here is my mentality and you are welcome to make it your own if it works for you: There Is No Way This Is Going To Fail and There Is No Way I Am Going To Fail. NO WAY.

If this fails, what would I do????? therefore, This Will Not Fail.

The success rate of bands is very low due to compliance rather than the technology and purpose. I read a post where someone had surgery the day after me and had 2 bowls of ice cream and tried to eat cake.....!!! short of judging her all i could think of was "are you kidding me??" in my unprofessional opinion, she isn't in the right mindset to do this if she's eating ice cream within 72 hours of having weight loss surgery.

for me, this is my last resort. I have no other options. this will work. period. i am strong enough to want it badly enough to work hard enough to do this and do this right. finally, i will have something to help me when i can't sustain unrealistic will power forever.

the mind is an incredibly powerful tool. use that too. get ready for the best change of your life. and keep in touch!

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knewme, I LOVE what you said! I am faced with constant doubts (both inside and external from my family). My family is all skinny and doesn't have to work at being thin. I am different. Each time my mom asks me if I should be doing this, I get angry. Of course I should! I have tried it all. I am great with losing it. I can do it easily in a few months, but I can't hold onto the weight loss for a lifetime.

So, I am claiming control. I take back control of my body and my eating habits. This tool will ensure my success. In one year, we will all be celebrating our bandster birthdays. I look forward to my ticker saying "0 pounds to goal!"

You go lingling, your gonna do it, just like all us bunny bandsters!

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P.S. Lingling, you have already done so well! You are actively part of a supportive community and you have lost weight! Great job and keep up the good work!

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