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:cry_smile:Hello all I get banded on 10/22/08 and all of a sudden I cant stop crying I have such a over welmed feeling. I guess it's because it's fianally going to happen and I have waited so long and not knowing what to really expect from this i'm nervous and:confused_smile: scared help........... :crying:

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Just thought I'd let you know, for the month before my surgery I cried all the time. I was mourning the loss of my best friend, food, and I was questioning if my decision was the right one for me. Once I started on the pre-op diet, I seemed o feel better. I was banded on October 7th, and to be honest I have had some nausia and discomfort from the gas, but food is the last thing on my mind. The surgery itself was nothing, less than a half hour and I had a hernia repair. I was up and walking two hours after I got to my room. Hang in there--this will change your life for the better. My starting weight was 262 (5ft-8 inches tall). My weight at surgery was 253 and today I weighed 245.

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I am being banded tomorrow. I did the same thing last weekend. I just cried and cried. I have been overweight my whole life and food is like an old friend. I am now at the point where I am just excited and want to get it over with and start my new life!

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thanks so much. i'm just going thru..

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Hey BootyBee. I have always been a cryer - cry when I'm happy, cry when I'm sad, cry when I'm scared. This is a big decision in our lives and those kind of decisions are emotional. There are a lot of unknowns when we change something major in our lives. What we know, and what we've done, might not have been good for us, but it was comfortable. Just try to keep focusing on the reasons you chose to get the the band. A longer and healthier life.... that sounds pretty good doesn't it? The surgery and recovery will be over before you know it and pretty soon you will be crying because you feel and look so much better. Good luck to you and if you ever need someone to cry to, or with, I'm here for you!!! Becky

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:thumbup:Thanks Miss B sometimes we just need to hear from others that understand us .

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yeah...it's scary...and to think we are going to be giving up what has always comforted us the most is very emotional. I spent the month prior mourning food, having "last meals" and just plain feeling sorry for myself. But afterwards...after the incisions start healing and post op diet is done all those thoughts I had were not reality at all. I still eat foods I've always enjoyed, just not the huge quantities. Believe me...the feeling will pass.

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Any surgery is scary and WLS is no exception. We all worry we won't be able to eat the foods we like but in all honesty I have been able to eat everything I did before just a heck of a lot less of it. The surgery was not as bad as I was thinking it would be as it was the first time I had any surgery at all. I never did take any of the pain meds that he prescribed only took tylenol when I got home and only needed that for about 3 days. I had my first fill this week and it was virtually painless, removing the bandaid they put on was worst than the fill. This will be the best thing you have done for yourself and your health. I have only lost 45lbs and my knees have already stopped hurting. Keep us posted on your journey and good luck.

Bob

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It is scarey...but my anticipation of my new life totally overrode any fear I could have had. I fairly bounced (a real feat!) into the hospital. When they took my blood pressure in the room before they took me down, it was something like 90 over 60. They laughed and said, "Wow, you aren't stressed about this at ALL are you!" and I said HECK NO...Bring it on!!!! But then they said my BP was too low and the anethesiologist wouldn't take me with that number, so I had to get up and march around until it went back up (hahah). Listen to me here folks....you are NOT giving up the foods you love. You are only giving up the GOBBLING, CRAMMING and INHALING of the foods you love. I can eat ANYTHING I could before....if I take ENOUGH time to do it. I too felt like I was giving up an old friend...until I woke up and I was just the same, except my NEW friend was helping me shed pounds like I have NEVER experienced before, and knowing it was permanent made it pleasureable (as you know, when dieting when you are overweight the goal is just a stopgap. You and I always know we'll just sail those numbers right back up within the year...it's pretty much a guarantee...so it's really hard to get excited about ANOTHER diet in a long list of diets we go through in our lives....). You will hear all kinds of stories on the forum, but I got my band at 55 years old, breezed through the surgery (WITH all the ammunition I had gained by researching before I went in...ALL my bases were covered and there was NOTHING that could surprise me...I was ready for everything), and I have to say all things considered breezed through this last year. All of a sudden it was over and I was at goal and I couldn't believe how fast it went and how great I felt and how happy I was!!!!!

There is no substitute for knowledge prior to getting banded. You need to know, expect, anticipate EVERYTHING. Prepare for the worst and you could be pleasantly surprised. Prepare for the gas. That's probably the worst thing you will face. Get your gas-X and know your de-gassing positions. USE your pain meds as you need them. Don't be a martyr. Make sure everything you COULD possibly need is within arm's reach for the first two weeks and you will be fine. Better to be overprepared than underprepared. I'll be thinking good thoughts for you all!!!:crying:

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Thanks once again all of you all words of encouragement are so helpful God bless you all.....

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Hello Bootybee. I don't think you are alone. The therapist at our bariatric center says it is common to cry, because we are losing our coping tool (food).

I am not banded yet, but I am substituting meals with protien shakes and broth. My food consumption; my comfort foods are restricted, which I personally find makes me more emotional.

Hang in there, you are not alone. Best wishes!

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