A Personal Question. (TMI?)

pandagirl · June 30, 2008

Hey there....Um, I've lost nearly a 100 pounds and still have some ways to go. I've noticed that I'm having some issues. Sex hurts now, now all the time, but the penetration isn't always as exquisite as it once was. If I angle myself differently, it isn't so bad or it goes away all together, but

this is a problem I've never had before. :bored:

Are any of you experiencing this or any other changed in your sex life? What about oral sex? Does...gosh, how do you say it without just saying it? Okay, is swallowing an issue? I mean you have to sip slowly right, but....:thumbup:

Okay, maybe this is all a little TMI, but who else am I gonna ask? You guys are the ones living it, breathing it and well, anyway... :wink_smile:

BeantownDiva · June 30, 2008

Hi Panda...WTG on the amazing progress!!

With the new changes and restricted diet, could it be a lubrication issue? You aren't taking in as much so maybe your body is reacting by not producing as much or enough...um... moisture? Have you noticed it any other places, such as drier skin, hair, etc?

Just a thought, hope it works out :wink_smile:

BeantownDiva

pandagirl · June 30, 2008

Hi Panda...WTG on the amazing progress!!
With the new changes and restricted diet, could it be a lubrication issue? You aren't taking in as much so maybe your body is reacting by not producing as much or enough...um... moisture? Have you noticed it any other places, such as drier skin, hair, etc?

Just a thought, hope it works out :wink_smile:

BeantownDiva

What a great thought! But um, I do have drier skin, but no problems with moisture in other areas. But still it's something to watch out for.

CMTurner · June 30, 2008

It could be excess skin getting "pulled" in (and out). I saw a surgery on tv where the woman had to have excess skin removed down there too after weight loss. Just a thought. Hope you figure it out and get back to enjoying life. Congrats on shrinkin 100#'s.

Cindy:smile:

hollyncharm · June 30, 2008

have you been with the same person the whole time? i know that sounds funny but when my aunt lost about 80 obs she and her husband split up and she hooked up with two guys (over the course of a year) and she said they both hurt. but before her and her husband split up she said it was fine. she decided its was because she had been with the same person for like 9 years also she developed bacterial infections after the other two guys. it was ans std or anything its just that her body was introduced to a new chemical and it reacted with infection. sounds odd but its true

pandagirl · July 8, 2008

have you been with the same person the whole time? i know that sounds funny but when my aunt lost about 80 obs she and her husband split up and she hooked up with two guys (over the course of a year) and she said they both hurt. but before her and her husband split up she said it was fine. she decided its was because she had been with the same person for like 9 years also she developed bacterial infections after the other two guys. it was ans std or anything its just that her body was introduced to a new chemical and it reacted with infection. sounds odd but its true

No, it's the same guy. And it doesn't hurt every time we have sex. It was just happening around my period, but now it seems to happen randomly. ( I think. Maybe I should have a hurty sex journal or something?:biggrin:) Anyway, the last two times were fine. The time before that it was painful. Maybe I should see the OBGYN anyway. I was thinking not because the pain isn't persistent. It should work out though, eventually.

JenniLeen · July 8, 2008

my vote is to go see your ob. sometimes these things don't work out on their own. So best to go see your doc, if nothing else he/she can give you suggestions on how to make it better!

U_go_gurl68 · July 8, 2008

Could it be just changes in hormones? When you are overweight everything changes and I am sure weight loss effects chemical reactions in the body as well.

If it is a penetration thing, perhaps that is also due to losing excess fat in certain areas. Now that there is not as much cushion, the positions you are using may be allowing your man in further causing the discomfort you didn't feel previously.

As far as the swallowing issue, I don't know what to say, only that I heard it was made up of mostly Proteins anyway. So you are at least safe there :biggrin:

Good luck on getting this problem solved. I agree with the others; see your GYN soon.

Sincerely,

Stephanie

Jachut · July 8, 2008

What sort of "hurts"? My first thought was skin being pulled around too but really, any pain with sex ought to be checked out.

pandagirl · July 8, 2008

What sort of "hurts"? My first thought was skin being pulled around too but really, any pain with sex ought to be checked out.

It's not a skin issue, I don't think. It's deep like he's pouding the hell out of my cervix or something. We've never had the issue before. We've been together for five years from me being 350 to 397. Now I'm in the 310 range and it's starting to hurt. I'm going to a Dr. about it. It's probably not weight related, but I thought about the possiblity because there have been other changes in my body.

pandagirl · July 8, 2008

Could it be just changes in hormones? When you are overweight everything changes and I am sure weight loss effects chemical reactions in the body as well.
If it is a penetration thing, perhaps that is also due to losing excess fat in certain areas. Now that there is not as much cushion, the positions you are using may be allowing your man in further causing the discomfort you didn't feel previously.

As far as the swallowing issue, I don't know what to say, only that I heard it was made up of mostly Proteins anyway. So you are at least safe there :wink2:

Good luck on getting this problem solved. I agree with the others; see your GYN soon.

Sincerely,

Stephanie

My thought was maybe my labia are thinner and he's going in deeper. But I can't really say. I really hate going to the GYN, but I think I'm going to have to do it.

SanDiegoSusan · July 9, 2008

What about oral sex? Does...gosh, how do you say it without just saying it? Okay, is swallowing an issue? I mean you have to sip slowly right, but....:wink:

What about the calories? :wink2::ohmy: :blink: I mean, is it listed on dailyplate.com? :biggrin2:

U_go_gurl68 · July 10, 2008

Pandagirl,

Another thought I had was that maybe your inner structural support has changed a little since you started losing weight, since you mentioned having cervical pain with sex. I have a tilted uterus which causes me to have that same kind of pain during sex.

I hope your doc figures it out soon.

Sincerely,

Stephanie

pandagirl · July 14, 2008

Pandagirl,
Another thought I had was that maybe your inner structural support has changed a little since you started losing weight, since you mentioned having cervical pain with sex. I have a tilted uterus which causes me to have that same kind of pain during sex.

I hope your doc figures it out soon.

Sincerely,

Stephanie

Is the pain in a specific spot?

hopeendures · July 14, 2008

What about the calories? :cursing::ohmy: I mean, is it listed on dailyplate.com? :biggrin2:

I just want to say thanks for this thread. Not because I have experienced the same thing, but because I haven't seen it discussed, and sexuality certainly changes with massive weightloss.

Thanks too for the laughs on the swallowing question. It's something I have actually considered, but the question, and the answers were put out there with such good humor....LOL I love you guys!