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In memory of Denyell



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My wife used to post on here as mom2bbb. Her name was Denyell Hooper. She had her surgery on March 31st 2008. She passed away on April 24th.

I want to start by saying so far there has been no link between the surgery and her death. Also I am not here to frighten anyone. This is sincerely not my intent but I feel I need to inform you of the conditions surrounding her death so if anyone here has these symptoms they will react quickly.

On the night of the 22nd of April my wife told me she thought she had an intestinal bug and she had some cramping on her left side. She said it was just mildly uncomfortable and she fell asleep. That next morning she said she wasn't feeling well and the cramping was about the same. she said she wanted to go home. (We were on vacation in New Hampshire) so I packed the truck and we went home. She had some diarrhea and she was throwing up about every 1/2 hour but so told me it wasn't too bad and she felt like she had a stomach bug. The red flag went up for me but she assured me it wasn't that bad. Well at 3:00 Am thursday morning she woke me up and said she didn't feel right and went to the hospital. By 7:30 Thursday night she was in Respiratory and Cardiac arrest. They revived her but needed to operate they lost her a second time on the table and could not revive her.

A couple of weeks later the ICU surgeon called me and said she died of Septic shock caused by an strep infection surrounding her abdominal cavity.

That is the latest info I have as of May 18th still waiting on the ME to give me a "legal" cause of death.

I am posting this to make everyone aware of the insidious symptoms surrounding her death. She never thought is was more than a bug and before Thursday morning said she didn't think she needed to go to the hospital.

Please, Please if you have any of these symptoms GO TO THE HOSPITAL!! The symptoms were mild and yet less than 48 hrs after they appeared she was gone.:wink_smile:

I will update as I find out more.

Again this thread is not to upset anyone but to make people aware that the most mild of symptoms can be huge after this surgery especially if they are related in any way to abdominal function. Also HER DEATH HAS NOT BEEN RELATED TO THE SURGERY AS OF YET.

With a heavy heart,

HER LOVING HUSBAND

Peter Hooper

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I'm so sorry for your loss. This kind of information is important for anyone to have. Thank you for taking time out of your grieving to share this information with us. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Peter,

Know that you and your family are in my prayers! This information is very helpful and appreciated!! To know that you took the time to come here and relay the symptoms during such a tragic time in your life means alot. May God give you the peace and comfort that ONLY HE can!!!

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I am so sorry to hear about your lost and your childrens lost.

I will pray for your family and that answers will be known soon.

She was so young I am so sorry for the pain and heartacke you and your family is going thru.

When you are able please update this thread so we are aware of what happened.

God will provide he has plans for everyone and everything.

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Wow, Peter thank you so much for sharing this information with us. It is a bit frightening going into my surgery next week. Your wife was a courageous woman and you should be so proud of her. I am amazed at your composure and rationality in not blaming her death on the surgery until there is sufficient evidence. My heart is with you and your family. :wink_smile:

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Peter, so sorry to hear of your wife's passing. Thank you for taking the time to inform us of her symptoms. So often I read posts from people that delay going to their dr. because they feel they might not be serious enough symptoms. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Peter,

I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your dear wife. To echo the others- thank you so much for your post. This has got to be so difficult for you and yet you think of others who may have something like this happen and post a warning in the midst of your grief. Thank you and may God hold you and your family in the palm of His hand. My heart breaks for you. You and your family are in my prayers.

Michelle

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Peter,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, My prayers are with you and your family at this time of sorrow. May the Lord bless you and your children.

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Peter,

I am so sorry for your loss.....I appreciate your concern for others in posting for others who are banded or going to be banded. I reallly really appreciate it because I would have handled it just as your wife did..... You and your family are in my prayers....

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I am so sorry for the loss of your wife and your children's mother. My heart goes out to you and all who knew and loved her. My prayer is that you will find peace, comfort and strength as you go through this rough time in your life. God bless your family.

Lezli

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Peter, I am praying for you and your family that God will provide your heart relief during this unimaginable loss. I am so sorry.

Taking the time to post on the site was so kind of you. Thank you for the information...God Bless

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I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your children at this difficult time. May the Lord comfort your grieving hearts. I would also like to thank you for posting your wife's story here. I have been having the same symptoms and was discharged from the hospital and still having pain. You have inspired me to find another doctor and be seen right away. I will not put it off. THANK you for posting amd God bless you.

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Peter I am so very sorry to hear of your loss, but like eveyone esle to thank you for thinking about others and finding the strength to let us know, as I know it must be very hard right now for you.

We sometimes tend to forget that ANY surgery can be dangerous but since it is somewhat rare for these things to happen we tend to forget they can.

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