OK...here goes nothing. I haven't posted in quite a while because I have been dealing with some real shit at home. A month ago I found out that my husband of almost 10 years has been having an affair for the last year and a half. :mad:That's right...while I was losing weight and looking great, that pig went out seeking an affair and here I was scared of how I would act after I started to get attention from others when I started to look nice. I am hurt:crying:, angry:mad2:, sad :cry_smile:, devastated:cursing:, sick and every other emotion (other than happy). I'm now on Xanax for my anxiety and I am completely obsessed with this crap. How can someone go out seeking an affair when they have a wife and two beautiful children? Do people care anymore? Do vows mean anything? What the hell is wrong with people? Of course now all of a sudden he wants the marriage to work. Well damn...you should have thought about that before porking the skank!!!! I want to freaken scream. I want to hurt them both. How the hell do people get on after things like this happen to them? Is it possible? We are in counseling, but should I even bother? Will he do it again? What about my kids? Damn...I need some serious help. This really sucks. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of the chest pains and the anxiety. I want a fairy tale ended but unfortunately my marriage will NEVER be the same. I can never look at him the same way again. Do I give up and start my life over with my boys? Can someone wake me up from this horribe nightmare????? Why me? In the last year I have gone from a size 22/24 to a size 10/12 and I have lost 106 pounds. I thought that my husband was proud of me and thought that I was looking good...guess not, huh? Joke's on me!!!

OMG, look how HAPPY you look in that last pic! You're just shining! I think you're going to be SO happy when everything heals. You already look teeny.

wow you look awesome!!!! Congrats.. it looks sooo painful though.. I hope you are feeling ok!

OMG - look how flat your tummy is. You look amazing. Is the pain medication working or does it hurt like hell?

Hello my dear friends...didn't get any drains out today but I almost cried when they took all the cotton and everything off. OK...here goes nothing...I cannot believe how flat my tummy is...I'm still VERY swollen...hell surgery was only Tuesday. What do you guys think?

Ouchie, that must be sore - but you look great! I hope you heal fast and get back in that bikini!

Oh you look FANTASTIC!!! Congratulations!!!

I am SOOOOO happy for you! And proud of you too. You are doing so well for YOURSELF and I just think it's wonderful!

Take care and heal well!!

Hi Tina,

I just recently joined this forum and somehow stumbled upon your thread... And after reading most of them over the past year, I can see the transformation on how happy you've become. I too was married to a man that 'thought the vows were a suggestion'. That's how I like to tell it. And I too had to go thru a lot to realize that it was NOT ME and ALL HIM! And that the light at the end of the tunnel was NOT an oncoming train, but the light to a new life and a new me! I've never been happier.

I actually lost almost 290 lbs... and I haven't even got the band yet! (That's how much he weighed)

I look foward to my new journey and I hope to be as succesful as you have been with your band.

Love & Happiness!

Sara

I actually lost almost 290 lbs... and I haven't even got the band yet! (That's how much he weighed) :tt1:

I look foward to my new journey and I hope to be as succesful as you have been with your band.

Love & Happiness!

Sara

welcome sassy. I love the amount of (weight) you lost.:sad: good luck with your journey.

Tina you look like you are happy! But hon I have a question, I thought the reason for the LB was so we wouldn't ever have to wear a mumu again? Because that is the only thing I can imagine you can wear over all them drain tubes! I am just kidding. But seriously, you are an awesome woman to go through all that you have gone through in the last year and come out on top. You have grown into a strong beautiful woman. You are learning things about yourself you didn't even know existed. The "work in progress" sign will soon be gone and in it's place will be one that reads "Finished." Love ya hon I am praying for a quick healing for ya.

Hi Tina,

I just recently joined this forum and somehow stumbled upon your thread... And after reading most of them over the past year, I can see the transformation on how happy you've become. I too was married to a man that 'thought the vows were a suggestion'. That's how I like to tell it. And I too had to go thru a lot to realize that it was NOT ME and ALL HIM! And that the light at the end of the tunnel was NOT an oncoming train, but the light to a new life and a new me! I've never been happier.

I actually lost almost 290 lbs... and I haven't even got the band yet! (That's how much he weighed) :tt1:

I look foward to my new journey and I hope to be as succesful as you have been with your band.

Love & Happiness!

Sara

Sara, congrats on the weight loss! LOL! What a great way to look at things. Sounds like you're doing a fantastic job. WTG!! And congrats on your upcoming banding!

OH YA, Tina...YOU GO GIRL!!:thumbup:You look incredible!! What an amazing journey you have been on. I'm so happy for you and you should be so proud of yourself!!

MILF Alert!!!!:tt1:

Tina,

You look fabulous already and so HAPPY! I'm glad that you are doing ok. Take care of youself and congratulations!

Tina, oh wow! Amazing! You're the bomb! Here's to fast healing!

Well it took me all of two days to read all your post and I first have to congratulate you on your progress I am so happy for you I can feel your excitement. You look great and I have never seen someone so happy that looks as if they should be is pain thank God for pain killers. I havent read all the other post but I have to tell you girl you better slow down. I know hubby made a serious mistake and I know how wrong he was but he loves you and I mean really loves you and you really need to know how precious love is. I dont care if you have a body of an 18 yr. old it is hard as hell to find real love. After you get off of your world spin you need to evaluate your situation and love worth having is worth fighting for. Your husband did cheat ok get past that think of all the good he did. When you were fat you werent happy you didnt have that same zest for life that you have today but he still loved you he didnt run off with the next hottie please imbrace your new life but see if there is room for the father of your children the man that loved you 100 pounds heavier next time some guy is flirting think to yourself would this man give me the time of day if i were fat. Your husband knows you and at 50 to 500 pounds ge would love you. I know he has learned his lesson. Please dont make the mistake and let him go re group get your priorties together. People get this surgery to find someone to spend their lives with and you had what so many of us want but its easier to party flirt. It is hard work to work on it learn to trust again but all the work could pay off. Please dont look up five years from now wore out from all the parting (best believe it will catch up to you) and end up the 40 something party girl left all alone. Someone other women would snatch up your husband and have a good life and because of you he would be a better stronger faithful husband why not be smart take your new body your knew life and share that with your husband and children just a thought. Good luck Michelle

Michelle, nothing personal, but to suggest she stay with a cheater is absurd. This guy didn't just cheat once, he cheated numerous times, and the most recent one was an ongoing affair for over a year.

NOBODY deserves that. TRUE love does not include cheating. How much would he have been showing his love for her had he brought home AIDS or some other VD to her??

And trust me, she will NOT end up alone.

I'm sorry, but love does not cheat or hurt you like that. She's better off without the guy.

Teeny Tina

Don't listen to naysayers I know from experience once a cheater always a cheater. I was married to who I thought was my soul mate, on our 10th anniversay I got the shock of my life. I received a letter telling about an affair that he was having with my niece!! I took him back vowed to work on the marriage and then after 13 years of marriage he left me for someone he had been cheating with. This was over 10 years ago now but it still hurts. Iam now married to the best man in the world, we will celebrate our 6th anniversary in July.

I love all of your before and after photos, good luck on the healing process.

Bernadette:rolleyes2:

Ditto ditto ditto!!