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I guess what we really need to do is keep our wants and dreams out there to focus on when times get tough. We will have a wonderful tool to help us on the way and it will be up to each of us to keep working toward our goals. This is not a quick fix but a lot of hard work. I think that the band is going to be the trigger to help us make our dreams come true. I have to believe that this is the case because I have tried everything else. Good luck to you all and me too!!

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I'd like to look thin, stylish and fit - and still be running - when I'm 80. I fear that awful middle aged descent into fat unstylish invisibility and sensible haircuts more than anything. And I never want my old age entertainment to be a week full of specialist appointments. I plan to be on the golf course, travelling, running and too busy to babysit my grandchildren while my daughters in law are at work!

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I want (more than anything in the world) to be healthy. To be able to grow old and have more time here.

I want to become the person that I know I am without the hinderance that is placed on me -- either by society or myself -- due to my weight.

I wanna be hot.

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I've got a big list -- I wrote it out, typed it up, put it in general order of priority and read it pretty much every day to remind myself.

At the top of the list are/were:

Health

Being more attractive

Getting to buy cute clothes in smaller sizes

Feeling better physically - more energy, able to run around with the kids

Happier when I look in the mirror

Feel more in control

Getting rid of my CPAP

Not feel like an embarrassment to my family

There's a ton more -- further down the list I start getting into specifics, like not worrying anymore about weight limits on things, being able to borrow clothes from someone in an emergency, go kayaking and not worry about being stuck if I flip over -- stuff like that :w00t:.

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That's a good question...what do I WANT?

Aside from the health benefits...

I want to be able to go SCUBA diving again.

I want to be able to fit EASILY into an airplane seat instead of hanging over into my husband's seat.

I want to NOT be the fat mom at my son's school activities.

I want to be able to have fun exercising again rather than worrying about what it is I am doing to my knees because they hurt so bad.

I want my oval face back.

I want to walk into Target and be able to buy clothes there.

I want to be able to get pregnant and have that second child.

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Thoes are all wonderful goals and I think they are attainable. We can do this...lets all stick together and keep encouraging each other. I love this web site for that very reason. I am with you in spirit because I share the same goals and history and pain. Let's share the ups and downs, joys and progress together because I know that WE CAN DO IT!!!

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I want to finally get control of my diabetes. I want to get rid of a few other meds too. I really want to be able to exercise and like it again. I want to keep up with my husband and my mother in law because they walk fast without being winded. I want to wear white shorts and a tank top and look good. I want to shop in the normal people section of any store I want. I want to shop at Victorias Secret. I want to be healthy and grow old enough to have great grandkids. I could go on and on here. It's fun and interesting to read what everybody wants. This is a great thread. Good luck and may all of our dreams come true.:grouphug::(

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I want to get off my blood pressure meds. The fact that I have to take them drives me crazy.

I want to take up ballroom dancing and be able to find a partner to compete with. (No one wants to dance with the fat girl.)

I want to .... well, that's mostly it. I am a gal of simple wants, I guess. :(

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I want to run. I want to play basketball with my daughter. I want to be able to walk down the aisle of my schoolbus instead of zig-zagging between the seats when I do my pre-trips. I want to buy clothing from any store I choose. I want to wear "hot" shoes, you know those sexy high heals. I want to go on an airplane and not fear that the seat belt wont fit. I want to go to Disney World next year and be able to keep up with my daughter and husband.:huh2:

The list goes on, these are just some of the many things I want.

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I wanted to be able to go out in public an not have the feeling like i was being stared at for being so huge. I wanted to FIT IN..........fit in restaurant booths, fit in airplane seats, fit in designer clothing and shoes from any store i so desired.

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You must be able to buy thoes cute little shoes now. You have done so well. How are you feeling and any advise for someone getting ready to have lap band? Also can you tell me how to make one of thoes cute weight ticker grafts. I want to start one now in preparation for all thoes pounds that are going to come off.LOL Becky

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Thoes a fantastic goals.....You can do it. Hope you have a great time at Disney World!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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