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I'm going to be banded in May and I am a SAHM (2 preschoolers) with a husband that travels extensively. He'll be home the 3 days after surgery but then will be gone. I was going to try to manage the kids on my own but now I am getting nervous. My 2.5 yr old weighs 32lbs and I know I'm not supposed to lift her for a few weeks but I realize that isn't feasible. She is with me all day every day. Anyone else in my boat? How did you handle it? Should I hire a daytime nanny?

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You should be just fine in 3 days. I was home alone with my 3 year old the very next day and felt fine. My dr said I had NO lifting restrictions as I was leaving the surgery center. I didn't take my pain meds, just tylenol, didn't want to be a zombie trying to take care of my son and I didn't need them.

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I've been concerned too. I have an 18 month old daughter(amazing little girl by the way) and absolutely have to lift and carry her. She can't go downstairs on her own, needs to be lifted into her high chair/crib etc. My hubby has to work the two days following my surgery and my mom will be here during that time, then Darren will be home the weekend. So I should have a solid four days of not lifting her. Hopefully that'll be enough!?

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I have two boys, one almost 3 and one almost 4. I am a sahm also. My sis and I were banded together and she has small ones also. Our Dr said that afew days for her would be fine befor lifting and 4weeks for me due to a hernia repair (i didnt know i had) during surgery. I think as long as you get down to your childrens level and use your legs to come up you will be fine. What hurts the most is when they are kinda sitting on your hip and feet or knees are bumping into your incisions. You know yourself the best so just take it easy. Good luck

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You ladies are amazing, I couldnt lift anything for a few weeks after my surgery. My worst part was not being able to pick up my grandson. I was fine if someone handed things to me but i was afraid of splitting my incisions if I lifted.

I was also a basket case the week after. I had a hard time just getting out of bed on my own!

I hate to admit it and don't tell any of my fellow gender members, but, men are whimps!!:biggrin::biggrin::tongue::biggrin::crying:

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My son was 12 months at my time of surgery and he loves to climb, so after surgery I just had him climb up on the couch when he wanted me to hold him, so that it was easier to be at his level. It made lifting him a lot easier.

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I had no problem. My DD was 10months old at the time and I could carry her in an infant car seat with no problems. I did use my baby sling alot but that was just to help keep her up on my hip when I was carrying her. As a matter of fact I still use my ring sling alot to hold her if we are shopping or walking and she is now 16months old. I just love the slings.

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