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Has anyone been told by their friends (who are bigger than them note )that you are too thin, you dont need to lose weight when you have not even reached the weight for your height - I am 32 lbs from the weight i should be for my height -- i only get these comments from other females, the male friends all say you are doing well you just have a little more to lose.

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Don't think about what other people say.....your goal weight is between you and your doctor.....

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Don't think about what other people say.....your goal weight is between you and your doctor.....

Doctor recommended another 32 pounds,and i know by checking the height weight charts thats correct. Maybe they jealous??

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Nope. Surprisingly, I've only been told here that I'm anorexic. By peopel who've never even clapped eyes on me.

IRL I look quite normal, could probably lose a little more in fact. People who didnt know me before just assume I've never had a weight problem. People who did know me before say I look great, I must be really happy with what I"ve achieved.

Nobody's ever said I'm TOO thin.

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Are you too thin?

No?

Then don't worry about what other people say.

Hear, hear.

People who knew you before surgery are probably goig to think you look too thin. They are so used to seeing you obese that once you drop a significant amount of weight you look "normal" to "thin" to them.

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No one has said I'm too thin, but more increasingly people are making comments like "you're wasting away, or you're getting really skinny, or are you done losing weight yet". I find it incredibly rude to be honest coming from the random people at work who choose to keep saying things like that to me. They're not friends, and not even people I work directly with. Its none of their business why or how I lost the weight and its my business and mine alone if I want to lose more, because I am actually still overweight! I just kind of look at them like are you effing kidding and walk away. Funny thing is I've only lost about 10 pounds since Last December, and I've gotten the most comments since then.

Its like me telling them they need to stop being ugly or lazy or something like that, which I would NEVER do because my mother taught me manners and how to mind my own business. Theres a line and people never seem to amaze me how they cross it when it comes to this subject.

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Its funny that I read this thread...I am a huge Biggest Loser fan, and the season finale was on Tuesday night. They had their first female winner (you go, girl) and I made the comment to my mom that she (the winner)was 'way too skinny'. I think it was the drastic weight loss she had and the constant before and after pictures they were showing. She went from 234 to 122 pounds in 6 months.

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Has anyone been told by their friends (who are bigger than them note )that you are too thin, you dont need to lose weight when you have not even reached the weight for your height - I am 32 lbs from the weight i should be for my height -- i only get these comments from other females, the male friends all say you are doing well you just have a little more to lose.

I wish.

Maybe next year...or the year after.

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