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:blush:Hi..In june of 2005, I was banded. Since then, I have endured the vomiting, the pain, and have spent thousands on top of the money i spent out of pocket to get relief and the results I so desperately wanted. After being hospitalized a month ago with acute gastritis, I have finally decided to have my band removed. I am planning on doing this in May. This will be MORE money due to the fact that my insurance wont pay a dime on this removal.

How do I deal with the feelings I'm having of feeling like a failure? I am so tired of leaving the dinner table to go throw up when all ive had is a few tablespoons of food due to the burning in my throat and stomach. Im tired of not being able to eat out..and Im tired of being SICK! The commercials for the band invade my tv all day it feels like. All the success stories are like hammers to my heart. My cousin is losing great amounts of weight with her band..and i think..what did I do wrong?

I guess i just want to say that I'm happy to have found this section of this board. I came here before the band...and after for a while when I started having problems such as PNEUMONIA the first week after surgery...ANY kind words will be appreciated...thankssssssss

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Wow. You've taken inititave! You've dieted your way through many years. You've learned of an appliance that could help. And you got it.

The diets and appliance failed...you didn't.

The only way to be a failure is to quit.

So, don't quit.

There are still many options.

I know you are having difficulties with some of the innards..... if your esophogas is fine, but stomach not...I'd consider the bypass. It would disconnect those problem areas.

Remember, don't quit.

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hi , my band was place wrong from the beginning. so i didn't have a chance to enjoy the fruits, of the work i was going to put to losing the weight.

i chewed tums for my heartburn, and gas. but,with all that i was going threw, i had other problems , i didn't know about , everything showed in the x-rays , but, no doctor, bothered telling me, like a big kidney stone, gold stones, which all this complicated, so much of my health and brings down your spirits, in trying to lose the weight.. since , your sick all the time ,you need to find out what else you may have ,

when i had problems,it was hard to chew the food small very small, cause, i was so hungry,

and eating to much, then i became allergy, to some foods, as soon as. i put the food in my mouth i vomit it out ,i could hardly hold down any thing, so i couldn't eat alot of foods, trial and error, i didn't eat the same foods that made me sick the first time around, you'll get to hate them, chicken, pork, steaks,meats, in very small portions.. then came drinks, i was down, to potato's and yogurt, milk.. but, slimfast helped a lot, also. because, they were liquids .. at times i didn't want to eat, in fear of getting sick.

Try to find a doctor, or buy your x-rays and see for yourself . in what could be wrong ........

Hoping you find relief sooner then later. and don't get discourage. just be careful.take Vitamins no matter what......

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margie,

band,4/5/04

emergency removal, 1/23/08

THUR PRAY AND SUPPLICATIONS MAKE YOUR PETITIONS KNOW TO GOD.

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