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It's interesting how we happily and with great anticipation track each pound lost, each inch gone, clothes getting looser and generally feeling better overall.

Something I've noticed (besides the obvious) is that I find I'm getting 'leaner and meaner'. I don't know if it's my improved self esteem, but I find I'm less tolerant of the BS I used to put up with before. (Could this also be an 'age' thing??) I'm speaking up more for myself, my ideas, my opinions, etc. as if I wasn't really 'worthy' of being listened to before.

Because of this (or in ADDITION to this) I find some friends becoming more distant. As if the new and improved me is not what they had in mind when it came to being my friend. Don't get me wrong, I haven't been downright ugly or abusive to anyone, just more standing up for myself type stuff.

Has anyone else experienced this with 'fair weather friends' or as long as you were fat, jolly and happy they were 'ok' with you, but NOW...well it's a different story.

I'm interested in hearing what others have to say about this.

I have found (interestingly enough) that my TRUE friends, although they notice the weight loss and Celebrate it with me, it's never been about my weight with them. They just see me as me and don't care if I weigh 350 or 150. As long as I'm happy, that's all they care about. But the others...it saddens me...

Thoughts anyone??:drool:

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Hi Becky,

Umm Yes and No LOL!

I am trying to work my way through a bit of a stress/menopausal/depression slump right now - so I've been have some poor food choices and my weight has stabilised.

I was aware that a lot of marriages/relationships break up after the wife looses a lot of weight, but I think I'll be okay on this front. I don't have a big social life, so I dont' think that will be an issue either for me.

I am VERY angry though......could be hormonal, stress or weight related, but I just want to growl and EAT people's head's off! Particularly work wise :teeth_smile:. I am feeling very very very intolerant of "users" in that respect. We run our own business, so have a lot of personal contact, and people just ring up and "use us" for free info and then shop elsewhere as we like to give good customer support and service. And over the last few months, I'm just OVER it. Could be hormonal though as I said, but I feel just generally less tolerant of being treated like I'm of no importance, except when people want something. So I guess that's a bit like fair weather friends.

I was very ill for a number of years, a long while back now, and that sorted out the fair weather freinds, so I am thinking this would be no different as I think friends and family expect a certain behaviour and it might make them uncomfortable when one "comes into one's own"

The future is for us ! :drool:

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Hi Coo,

I can totally understand where you're coming from (and I'm past the PMS point now <at least I HOPE so - knock on wood>), but I still really get it about being done with 'users'. Those people who only call when they need something from you; otherwise you never hear from them.

I'm like you, I don't think my marriage will break up over this, it's pretty solid and we've been together a long time (through thick and thin) - sorry, couldn't resist!! :grouphug:

I'm trying (but not ALWAYS succeeding) in enjoying the journey on the way DOWN, but you're right, those emotional, hormonal factors always seem to come into play.

I'm sure like everything else in life we're having our peaks and valleys...and you're right...better times are right ahead. Plus it doesn't help that this is a crappy time of year weather wise anyway.

Hang in there and thanks for responding!! :eek:

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