Still Undecided.....

[FlowerGirl44 24]

So, I am going back and forth on getting the surgery and not getting the surgery. I don't know what I am going to do. I have my last appointment Monday for my final insurance requirements for approval. I am about 135 lbs. overweight, so I have a good bit I need to lose, which is why have been thinking of and researching the bypass. I started out with a little doubt and then I decided no, not for me. A few months later I was back at thinking of it again, and decided without a doubt I was going for it. That is when I started seeing the surgeon and required doctor's/specialist's visits. I was on that train of thought for a few weeks and now I don't know if I am getting impatient or truly scared or feel as though I might actually be able to do this on my own through diet and exercise. I feel so lost. I feel like I have read all of the information. I have joined numerous groups to see others results and experiences. Is this normal? To go back and forth? Am I just too much in my own head about this?

[Brandiwine77 55]

27 minutes ago, FlowerGirl44 said:

So, I am going back and forth on getting the surgery and not getting the surgery. I don't know what I am going to do. I have my last appointment Monday for my final insurance requirements for approval. I am about 135 lbs. overweight, so I have a good bit I need to lose, which is why have been thinking of and researching the bypass. I started out with a little doubt and then I decided no, not for me. A few months later I was back at thinking of it again, and decided without a doubt I was going for it. That is when I started seeing the surgeon and required doctor's/specialist's visits. I was on that train of thought for a few weeks and now I don't know if I am getting impatient or truly scared or feel as though I might actually be able to do this on my own through diet and exercise. I feel so lost. I feel like I have read all of the information. I have joined numerous groups to see others results and experiences. Is this normal? To go back and forth? Am I just too much in my own head about this?

I went back and forth for YEARS. Started the process and then backed out. I totally get it. And leading up to the surgery, I almost backed out again. I was so nervous and almost petrified. I kept having the What If thoughts that were borderline irrational. This time I didn't really tell anyone, but a couple of super close people. My coworkers don't even know, as I only took off 3 days. I didn't want anyone getting in my head and speaking negativity. I tried so many times to do it on my own. I had some success, but in the end, I could never get past a certain point on my own, so would get frustrated and say screw it, that if I'm going to work that hard and not get anywhere, I'd rather not. I'm 15 days post op now. It's definitely not easy and some days I struggle more than others, but I know that it gets better daily.

[DaisyAndSunshine 303]

Go for it!

That's all I'll say!

Majority of us here have gone with the constant back and forth but rarely would you come across anyone say they regret the decision having gone past the year down the road post their surgery!.

Negative thoughts will be common as the time for surgery comes closer but you have to ouweight the risks over benefits. My life has taken a 180 since the surgery. New outlook in life and just general sense of bliss, it's unimaginable. If I were to do it all over again, I'll do it without a second thought. Good luck with whatever that you decide.

[ms.sss 15,861]

i backed out of scheduled surgeries TWICE.

so i get it.

third time around, i finally went through with it. soooooooo glad i did. honestly, my ONLY regret about wls is the fact that i backed out those first 2 times.

you are ready when YOU say you are ready.

Good Luck! ❤️

[FlowerGirl44 24]

32 minutes ago, DaisyAndSunshine said:

Go for it!

That's all I'll say!

Majority of us here have gone with the constant back and forth but rarely would you come across anyone say they regret the decision having gone past the year down the road post their surgery!.

Negative thoughts will be common as the time for surgery comes closer but you have to ouweight the risks over benefits. My life has taken a 180 since the surgery. New outlook in life and just general sense of bliss, it's unimaginable. If I were to do it all over again, I'll do it without a second thought. Good luck with whatever that you decide.

Thank you so much! I have been writing in a journal my thoughts on it and listing the pros and cons and trying to weigh everything out. I think I just need a little more time to be sure before I take the plunge.

[FlowerGirl44 24]

28 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

i backed out of scheduled surgeries TWICE.

so i get it.

third time around, i finally went through with it. soooooooo glad i did. honestly, my ONLY regret about wls is the fact that i backed out those first 2 times.

you are ready when YOU say you are ready.

Good Luck! ❤️

Thank you! I keep seeing so many say that they were scared and even maybe at first regretted it until a few weeks passed. I think those first few weeks are what is scaring me most. Will I freak out over not eating normal food? Will I go into some sort of depression? That is what's heavy on my mind.

[SleeveToBypass2023 2,682]

1 hour ago, FlowerGirl44 said:

So, I am going back and forth on getting the surgery and not getting the surgery. I don't know what I am going to do. I have my last appointment Monday for my final insurance requirements for approval. I am about 135 lbs. overweight, so I have a good bit I need to lose, which is why have been thinking of and researching the bypass. I started out with a little doubt and then I decided no, not for me. A few months later I was back at thinking of it again, and decided without a doubt I was going for it. That is when I started seeing the surgeon and required doctor's/specialist's visits. I was on that train of thought for a few weeks and now I don't know if I am getting impatient or truly scared or feel as though I might actually be able to do this on my own through diet and exercise. I feel so lost. I feel like I have read all of the information. I have joined numerous groups to see others results and experiences. Is this normal? To go back and forth? Am I just too much in my own head about this?

First, yes, you're in your head way too much. Second, that's completely normal. It's a HUGE surgery. It's life changing. It also requires work, dedication, determination, and a willingness to completely change your whole life. But it's so, so worth it.

Let me ask you this...have you tried diet and exercise already? How many times? Did you have any success? How long did your progress last before you went right back to your old habits? If you were able to do this on your own, you would have done it. There's no shame in needing the surgery to get where you need and want to be.

Take all the time you need, but don't let fear stop you.

[FlowerGirl44 24]

7 minutes ago, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

First, yes, you're in your head way too much. Second, that's completely normal. It's a HUGE surgery. It's life changing. It also requires work, dedication, determination, and a willingness to completely change your whole life. But it's so, so worth it.

Let me ask you this...have you tried diet and exercise already? How many times? Did you have any success? How long did your progress last before you went right back to your old habits? If you were able to do this on your own, you would have done it. There's no shame in needing the surgery to get where you need and want to be.

Take all the time you need, but don't let fear stop you.

I had a feeling I was....and my boyfriend tells me the same thing LOL...

I have tried dieting countless times along with diet pills, the shots.....nothing has worked. I always grow tired of it because I am so hungry and go back to bad habits and throw in the towel. It's a helpless feeling you get through all this mess. I know if I want something different, I have to do something different. And I have read success story after success story online. I know the surgery works wonders and changes lives in so many ways. I'm feeling like I am about 80% there to a decision.

[FlowerGirl44 24]

I also need to consider the amount of time and money I have already invested into this. My psych eval alone was $200 . And I am one appointment away from sending everything off for insurance approval....so I am almost at the finish line. Maybe it's suddenly becoming real and freaking me out that this is really happening

[Brandiwine77 55]

8 minutes ago, FlowerGirl44 said:

I also need to consider the amount of time and money I have already invested into this. My psych eval alone was $200 . And I am one appointment away from sending everything off for insurance approval....so I am almost at the finish line. Maybe it's suddenly becoming real and freaking me out that this is really happening

Yep. That was me too. The closer I got, the anxiety went through the roof. I had myself convinced I was having heart issues and such, I had stressed so much. All but had a full blow panic attack. I was less nervous the morning of surgery, and since mine was outpatient, I was home by 1pm same day, and all was good.

[summerseeker 2,422]

If you can keep your nerve and get to the hospital on the day then you will thank yourself three months down the line. If you bottle it then in 12 months you will be back on the bariatric treadmill wishing that you will have enough courage this time around. We were are scared, its the unknown.

Like @ ms.sss says I too would have this done again in a heartbeat. It has changed my life. Its worth it. The pre op diet is so tough it feels like you have to earn the surgery. I hated that diet so badly, I almost ran to the operating theatre

[ms.sss 15,861]

2 hours ago, FlowerGirl44 said:

Will I freak out over not eating normal food? Will I go into some sort of depression? That is what's heavy on my mind.

is easy (and normal!) to have swirly thoughts. but really, you'll know if you have issues when u know. and when you do, you can deal with it then.

easy to say, yes, i know.

but take it from the multitude from the other side, alot of the worries you are having now are more likely at worst, temporary, and and best, unfounded.

Good Luck! ❤️

[catwoman7 11,285]

yep - went back and forth for 10 years. But I finally admitted to myself that I couldn't do it alone - I cannot tell you how many times I lost weight, just to gain it all back again. The most I could ever lose (and this was just a handful of times) was 50-60 lbs. But most times it was more like 10-20. I had over 200 lbs to lose. How on earth was I going to pull that off i I couldn't even keep 50 of? I finally realized this was the only thing left to try. And I was afraid of a drastically shortened life if I didn't get the damn weight off. So I finally did it. It wasn't easy - but it worked.

[BabySpoons 632]

If you decide to put it off, don't wait too long. Otherwise, you may have to do all the pre-op testing a second time. You've already come this far...

I personally wouldn't go into it unsure. A little bit of fear is natural. But I know if I don't go all in, I won't be successful. But then I'm an all or nothing personality.

Edited June 23, 2023 by BabySpoons