No longer feeling confident about having surgery

[Smanky 743]

5 minutes ago, Angelina1210 said:

Yes. She did. They felt this was a “cosmetic thing” and it’s certainly not. I’m overweight and I’m sick of it and anyone who’s been overweight knows the physical and mental toll it takes on the body. I haven’t changed my mind. I was just a little down by the responses I was getting and then I have to remember that I made the choice to share my life changing decisions with those around me. Biiiiiig mistake🤦🏾‍♀️😏

Yep, people who aren't obese and struggling cannot understand what it's like, can't understand the despair that comes with it, alongside the health problems.

And unfortunately, even people who love you can struggle to understand it, and sometimes even react with underlying jealousy if they're overweight themselves. Annoyance dressed up as concern.

Glad you've shaken the comments off! You're gonna do brilliantly. 💪

[waterwoman 172]

Could I add, there is nothing wrong with having bariatric surgery for cosmetic reasons. Most of us have multiple reasons for doing the surgery because we are complex creatures.

[Amidoingit 6]

Best of luck on your surgery day[emoji304][emoji304]

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[Guest]

You have a metabolic disease. It has a safe, well-studied cure - bariatric surgery. Go have your surgery. Live your life, dear. You deserve it.

(And if you need someone to call your pastor's wife to tell her to mind her own business, we are thousands of voices strong enough to speak out for those who cannot).

You've got this!

[LilaNicole20 252]

9 hours ago, Smanky said:

Annoyance dressed up as concern.

Love this. It's so common. I no longer welcome people sharing their 'concerns' with me.

[Angelina1210 49]

14 hours ago, MiniGastricBypassDude said:

You have a metabolic disease. It has a safe, well-studied cure - bariatric surgery. Go have your surgery. Live your life, dear. You deserve it.

(And if you need someone to call your pastor's wife to tell her to mind her own business, we are thousands of voices strong enough to speak out for those who cannot).

You've got this!

Thank you☺️❤️

[SleeverSk 627]

On 12/6/2021 at 3:38 PM, Angelina1210 said:

Hello All,

I’m scheduled for surgery on December 10th. My surgery will be in Mexico because my insurance will not cover weight loss surgery. Today, I got a call from my pastors wife and she expressed her concerns about me going to Mexico. I’ve done my research and my weight is emotionally and physically taking a toll on me and I’ve been so excited but since talking to her, I no longer feel confident and I feel like negative thoughts have been projected on me. I was happy but now I’m feeling like this was too good to be true and maybe I shouldn’t go. This is why I should’ve kept tho to myself. I tried to be open about it and I’m getting negative feedback and it’s got my anxiety way up which is something I do not need right now. Any thoughts? I could use some encouragement. Thanks 😏

At the end of the day its your choice, i didnt tell anyone because i didnt want negativity to make me change my mind, when i got to the hospital i was scared and basically changed my mind. The nurses and surgeon treated it as pre op nerves. I wish i didnt do it. I am 5 months out still tired, feel unwell most days struggle with what to eat most days but i have lost weight although that has stalled already. I also find myself slipping back into my old habits....so for me I should have tried good old fashion diet because the habits that got me fat arent going to be stopped by the sleeve. Sorry i know you wanted positive encouragement but i think its important to know all possible outcomes. At the end of the day its your choice and you will be anxious about no matter what anyone says. I had no negativity before but i still freaked out. Sorry i am probably not helping i will delete my comment if you want.