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So.. I’m leaving the app.. sorry if I sounded rude or um.. unwanting to get help like some ppl said. Just for the record I’m literally 18. I had the surgery done when I was 17. I never found any support from someone who fully supported me. I guess if you are not perfect at wls you are not good enough. Just like everything else in life.... I want to thank anyone who took the time to speak with me and I’m sorry to anyone who I hurt because that was totally unintentional...

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I can tell you aren’t very happy right now. You are 18. 18 is a rough age. I don’t think you have actually hurt anyone, though.

Try to stay positive, be true to yourself, and understand that 18 sucks... it gets WAY better.

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On 7/30/2020 at 6:56 AM, Riva_G. said:

So.. I’m leaving the app.. sorry if I sounded rude or um.. unwanting to get help like some ppl said. Just for the record I’m literally 18. I had the surgery done when I was 17. I never found any support from someone who fully supported me. I guess if you are not perfect at wls you are not good enough. Just like everything else in life.... I want to thank anyone who took the time to speak with me and I’m sorry to anyone who I hurt because that was totally unintentional...

Hey dont know what this is about but take care and remember the world is full of opinionated people and as adults you cant go run n hide from everyone. You might find some buds here if you stay but maybe not either way dont be so sensitive and remember all these people have their own lives with their own responsibilities and do not owe a response to strangers on the web. If you dont like internet support try going to a support group in your town atleast. I do both 👌🏼

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People can be a-holes when they’re safely behind their keyboard battle shields. Learn to spot their dysfunction as a product of their own issues with themselves rather than with you. Hurt people hurt people... Lots of people probably live your contributions. Hang in there. a

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1 hour ago, amori99 said:

People can be a-holes when they’re safely behind their keyboard battle shields. Learn to spot their dysfunction as a product of their own issues with themselves rather than with you. Hurt people hurt people... Lots of people probably live your contributions. Hang in there. a

If you check her post history, you will see no one here was an "a-hole" to her. She received some genuine advice.

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I'm not going to do that. I'm not trying to get involved in anything negative. I hope what you say is true, but it seems a little disingenuous when you follow her to another post to comment. Maybe there's some sort of disconnect, but if it were me, I'd handle that with extra kindness rather than trying to defend a position. People don't get here because their lives were easy, and we can demonstrate grace, even when someone is wrong. Stay well. I sincerely wish you the best, a

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She received some feedback from me on a comment she left on another thread

If that led to her departure, @Riva_G. Comeback and we can discuss

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