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On 2/3/2020 at 8:32 AM, Sheribear68 said:

I also have another one:

I wish I would’ve had more mutual hobbies with friends other than eating and drinking out before this process.
Your life takes such a 180 when it’s no longer food-centric and I’ve missed a lot of times with friends this year bc they can’t exactly figure out how I fit in anymore.
We are all still trying to figure it out, but the social life WILL take a big hit and I’m learning that it’s just unavoidable and that eventually things will get back on track.

I know you posted this 2 weeks ago, but I had read about this and how friendships change. So with all my closest friends when I started the whole process of WLS transition (you know 6 months of appointments and whatnot) I started transforming my friendships too. I told all my friends who were closest to me whom I consider a more loving family at times than my own. We started doing other things - bowling, movies, game nights (not centered around food)

So here I am hoping 🤞🏻 that many of my relationships don't change too much. I'll let you know in 6 months though 🤷🏼‍♀️

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On 2/17/2020 at 2:19 PM, Sheribear68 said:

It gets easier, but it’s still rough sometimes.
On the upside, hubs and I rarely go out to eat anymore bc of this, therefore it’s great for our budget.
On the downside,I’ve had to learn to tell myself repeatedly that IDGAS what the servers or restaurant staff think of me when I I order an appetizer as a meal (honestly it’s so tedious sometimes to explain that I want it brought when everyone’s meal arrives because IT IS MY MEAL) or when hubs and I share an app and I take small bites off of his plate and ask for an extra smaller plate.
You would think with more and more bari brothers and sisters out there that this would be so common, but it’s still hard for people to understand.
It’s like our society exists to stuff our faces with as much crap as we can when we go out rather than enjoy the experience of going out.

I told everyone at all my favorite regular restaurants my hubby and I go to. They have been so accommodating. I'm glad I started reading these boards in preparation so I knew what to do.

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I still can't get used to people calling me skinny or tiny. I was pushing a patient on a bed yesterday and he commented, "I feel sorry that a teeny little thing like you has to push me and this bed." REally??????? Who is he talking about??????? So weird.

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On 2/3/2020 at 7:15 AM, Taj said:

Marena compression garments are used after liposuction to reduce swelling and helped my daughter after her 150 pound weight loss after RNY. She has very little excess skin, even on her belly where she carried all of her weight. They’re not cheap, but you only need a couple of full body garments. I’m wearing them now after my vsg and they really do help A LOT!!

The compression gathers help with the loose skin afterwards? Is there a specific reason why this helps? I will have to look into getting some.

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17 hours ago, GrungeGrownUp said:

The compression gathers help with the loose skin afterwards? Is there a specific reason why this helps? I will have to look into getting some.

I'd like to know the same thing!

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That I would look really good with clothes on, but not so great with clothes off.

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Disclaimer: I’m a bit socially awkward to begin with. But you will start to notice people noticing you (if you know what I mean). And it is puzzling at first until you remember that your not in the same body anymore. Your mind takes longer to catch up to the weight loss.

Not a bad thing, but people in general will respond more positively to you. I don’t know if it is a function of fat bias or changes in self esteem/confidence, but I definitely noticed a change.

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I actually like going out to eat more now than I did before. Most of my frequent restaurants are used to me eating just a tiny bit. The reason I love it is because I can get a box and enjoy the leftovers for several more meals! It’s awesome. But, I can see how if the server is acting overly concerned that it could get awkward.

I wish I had saved up more money for clothes. I love clothes shopping so much now. My sense of style also changed completely. I think it’s because I feel more confident? I’m not sure.

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On 01/30/2020 at 05:25, Lyndor said:



I went through a real low mood period post op where i cried a lot and felt very depressed. I thought id never enjoy food again.




My relationship with food is very very different now - things can be too sweet! Never thought THAT was possible, I hate meat, it makes me feel uncomfortable in my stomach and grosses me out. I dont generally enjoy food unless its actually something really really good. And i mentally have to know its healthy too or the joy is all gone.








Head hunger is 100% real and probably the most difficult part - even though i dont necessarily want food, when im bored i just eat. Ive learnt the way to help me say no to things is to think about their taste (weird concept i know!). For example, theres a chocolate cake on the table in the staff room I know what choc cake tastes like... so i dont need to eat it! Works well for me


I am barely a week post op and I find my food tastes horrible. My breath is horrific. I am so worried I am not getting enough Protein. I am struggling getting the food in. I feel as if I am failing at this and am worried that that I will become malnourished because lots of food, the thought of eating it is revolting. Everything I put in my mouth is awful. And despite the number of times I brush my teeth and tongue the awful mouth taste remains. Even Water is hard to get down. HELP.

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On 1/30/2020 at 6:25 AM, Lyndor said:

I went through a real low mood period post op where i cried a lot and felt very depressed. I thought id never enjoy food again.

My relationship with food is very very different now - things can be too sweet! Never thought THAT was possible, I hate meat, it makes me feel uncomfortable in my stomach and grosses me out. I dont generally enjoy food unless its actually something really really good. And i mentally have to know its healthy too or the joy is all gone.

Head hunger is 100% real and probably the most difficult part - even though i dont necessarily want food, when im bored i just eat. Ive learnt the way to help me say no to things is to think about their taste (weird concept i know!). For example, theres a chocolate cake on the table in the staff room I know what choc cake tastes like... so i dont need to eat it! Works well for me

I am into the third week after my surgery and i also experience a low mood and I cried every day and fell very depressed thinking I will never enjoy food again I am glad to hear that I am not along and is part of the process for some people is been very difficult I can't wait for the time to go fast to feel better mentally.

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On 02/22/2020 at 22:43, chalcrow said:


I am barely a week post op and I find my food tastes horrible. My breath is horrific. I am so worried I am not getting enough Protein. I am struggling getting the food in. I feel as if I am failing at this and am worried that that I will become malnourished because lots of food, the thought of eating it is revolting. Everything I put in my mouth is awful. And despite the number of times I brush my teeth and tongue the awful mouth taste remains. Even Water is hard to get down. HELP.

I am in the same boat. It has eased up a bit. I tried a new Protein Drink and I try to keep moving to get everything down

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I am glad to hear you tried a new drink that is working for you. Today, luckily, the bad taste in my mouth is gone, and I have discovered that my body will accept Campbell’s bean and bacon Soup, puréed and liquified as well as the Habitant brand (Canadian) split pea soup. I have been able to enjoy that today and am so grateful. Still I find sweet foods so unappealing!! I am happy with that but my body sure doesn’t seem to like the whey Protein Powder at all. I am going to try to stay away from it for a day or so and see if that changes anything. Here’s hoping and fingers crossed! 👍🏻

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