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[mylobster 3]

Hi,

My partner is having MGB next month and i'm completely behind their decision and we already have a really good strong relationship with lots of communication on how the other is feeling.

I think i'm just looking for tips that you have found really helpful that your other half has done for you or things you wish your other half would do.

I'm very aware that the odds are very high for couples to split after WLS and I refuse to add to that, so any tips would be great

TIA

xx

[GradyCat 3,697]

My husband has been very supportive, but I also had to be understanding that just because I'm eating smaller portions and watching what I eat doesn't mean I can force him to do the same thing.

Including the weight I lost pre-surgery I'm down 64 1/2 pounds and he's very proud of me and giving me compliments, which I really appreciate.

He helps me make good choices to remember small portions and the right foods when we dine out at a restaurant in case I forget.

[FluffyChix 17,418]

My guy also was fully supportive of me, and is there whenever I call on him. But ultimately this is my decision and my journey. So he can't "do" anything for me in an enabling way. I must make the choices to do it for me and from me. If that makes any sense?

What he has done that is outstanding is to get on-board with lifestyle changes which are inclusive of the other. He WANTS to eat healthy and ditch any junk (in fact he's even stronger and more committed to that than me--and I'm pretty rabid about it). He wants to walk and work out now. And we enjoy the time spent together in healthy active pursuits.

But saying that, had he not been interested in it, I would not have pressed him, but our paths would have diverged naturally rather than converged.

So I'd look at spending the time examining if there are ways and things you can do to improve your lifestyle habits that converge with your partners experience and journey?

Also, get your own dang food during the 2 week pre-op liquid diet and during the 2-3 week post-op liquid diet. LOL. Eat your biggest meal at lunch out of the house when you don't have to eat in front of her. Maybe clean out the pantry, freezer and fridge of junk for now? Just suggestions. Seeing him eat normally (healthy food) was difficult mostly during the 2 week pre-op liquid diet.