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Why is it that our head tries to play games?? Especially when it comes to our weight loss! I am very happy with my progress overall, but each week it is a mind battle for my head to accept where i am on this journey. Last week when i weighed in, it was 59 pounds loss total.. Great! Not so great! Why was it not 60? My mind wanted it to be 60 and it was not so i was disappointed in myself.. ok.. great! Next week it will be over 60 and i will be happy. I weighed this morning ( A day early) because it was killing me i didn't get on the scale all week on purpose to try and go a week without weighing LOL.. Anyways.. result.. Down 3.2 ( and i still have tomorrow to go, but if no change ok) but now my mind says.. you are not in the 230s yet.. Need to lose another 1.6 to get there. So now i sit here thinking.. What can i do today to impact that 1.6 by tomorrow since official weigh in is tomorrow.. Seriously! Brain.. Get a life! This is great you aren't even 3 months out yet and you put on a size 16 dress.. ( even though I couldn't breathe) lol it still fit, but not correctly.. it will not be long before i can actually wear it in public.. Oh the mind games!!!

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Oh yes, the dreaded mind games. We lose a good amount but we're disappointed that it wasn't a different amount. I can relate to that. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's a marathon, not a sprint, and good things are coming to me in their due time.

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I'm trying to explain this to my husband. From his perspective, I should feel all hot and sexy now. I'm still ashamed of myself. Part of me still sees the fat me, the other part focuses on the loose skin and thinning hair. UGH! I should be so pleased with my progress and all I do is critique myself, and cruelly! Mind games are the worst!

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4 hours ago, GradyCat said:

Oh yes, the dreaded mind games. We lose a good amount but we're disappointed that it wasn't a different amount. I can relate to that. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's a marathon, not a sprint, and good things are coming to me in their due time.

you are right. It is a marathon and not a sprint! I think about that too every day.

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3 hours ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

I'm trying to explain this to my husband. From his perspective, I should feel all hot and sexy now. I'm still ashamed of myself. Part of me still sees the fat me, the other part focuses on the loose skin and thinning hair. UGH! I should be so pleased with my progress and all I do is critique myself, and cruelly! Mind games are the worst!

Crazy Right! It is never ending! The other thing i keep looking at is my ticker ( on this site LOL) not my heart.. And i am like.. when is that thing going to be less than 100 to go? When is the runner going to he halfway through the sign LOL.(though today i was like YAY! she reached it at least lol.

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23 hours ago, Jazzy1125 said:

Why is it that our head tries to play games?? Especially when it comes to our weight loss! I am very happy with my progress overall, but each week it is a mind battle for my head to accept where i am on this journey. Last week when i weighed in, it was 59 pounds loss total.. Great! Not so great! Why was it not 60? My mind wanted it to be 60 and it was not so i was disappointed in myself.. ok.. great! Next week it will be over 60 and i will be happy. I weighed this morning ( A day early) because it was killing me i didn't get on the scale all week on purpose to try and go a week without weighing LOL.. Anyways.. result.. Down 3.2 ( and i still have tomorrow to go, but if no change ok) but now my mind says.. you are not in the 230s yet.. Need to lose another 1.6 to get there. So now i sit here thinking.. What can i do today to impact that 1.6 by tomorrow since official weigh in is tomorrow.. Seriously! Brain.. Get a life! This is great you aren't even 3 months out yet and you put on a size 16 dress.. ( even though I couldn't breathe) lol it still fit, but not correctly.. it will not be long before i can actually wear it in public.. Oh the mind games!!!

We are our own worst critics and the hardest on ourselves. You've done great! I hope to be as successful :)

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OMG I am EXACTLY the same! I feel like it all should be instant! Just came off of a stall week and lost 2 pounds which makes me happy. I wonder if being super competetive has anything to do with this insatiable NEED for me to see progress? My friend Batty VSG has such a healthy approach to it all and doesn't seem to let the scale get in her head! I admire her so!

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40 minutes ago, WLH said:

We are our own worst critics and the hardest on ourselves. You've done great! I hope to be as successful :)

Thank you. I woke up this morning down another pound..so now its like.. Darn .4.. Why cant i just produce a BM.. LOL I know its not gonna happen.. Tis ok! I will be in the next set of 10 next week LOL

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