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Recently was sleeved..and basically I've lost maybe 30 pounds in 4 weeks...people keep saying.."omg your soooo skinny" "Wow your loosing alot of weight" "dag how much are you trying to loose" all these comments are said negatively..not positively. I'm getting so annoyed...I have not shared that I got the sleeve with these people..and I'm sooo glad I didnt. I'm still 220 and they call me skinny. However, I really dont understand people. When your fat and ur back is hurting you cant breathe..people suggest you eat better and lose weight. Now that weight is dropping they look at you in discuss. Soooo irritating. How can I handle this..what can I say to shut these people up.

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I I think you should just give them a big smile and say thank you I am doing my best and I’m glad that you noticed me

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I said previously in another post that a woman at my work keeps commenting "oh, you've lost weight". One day I got pissed off with it and looked at her and said back "Oh, it looks like you've gained weight". That shut her gob pretty quick.

Commenting on someone's weight is like saying "Oh, you finally got rid of that hump on your back" or similar. Your healthy weight loss is none of their damn business. I have told the people I feel I want to tell but other than that it's not up to anyone else to comment on my weight, or any other part of my anatomy/appearance.

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1 hour ago, drop the beat said:

Recently was sleeved..and basically I've lost maybe 30 pounds in 4 weeks...people keep saying.."omg your soooo skinny" "Wow your loosing alot of weight" "dag how much are you trying to loose" all these comments are said negatively..not positively. I'm getting so annoyed...I have not shared that I got the sleeve with these people..and I'm sooo glad I didnt. I'm still 220 and they call me skinny. However, I really dont understand people. When your fat and ur back is hurting you cant breathe..people suggest you eat better and lose weight. Now that weight is dropping they look at you in discuss. Soooo irritating. How can I handle this..what can I say to shut these people up.

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Tell them that you are terribly ill and should donate to your GoFundMe, use the money for plastics later lol

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Recently was sleeved..and basically I've lost maybe 30 pounds in 4 weeks...people keep saying.."omg your soooo skinny" "Wow your loosing alot of weight" "dag how much are you trying to loose" all these comments are said negatively..not positively. I'm getting so annoyed...I have not shared that I got the sleeve with these people..and I'm sooo glad I didnt. I'm still 220 and they call me skinny. However, I really dont understand people. When your fat and ur back is hurting you cant breathe..people suggest you eat better and lose weight. Now that weight is dropping they look at you in discuss. Soooo irritating. How can I handle this..what can I say to shut these people up.
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First 2? "Thank you for your feedback." Last one? "That's not an appropriate question." All said with a neutral and calm voice.
All of the above? Walk away after the reply. It is the perfect "end of discussion" statement.
It's their jealousy talking - they are projecting what they AREN'T doing at you. They see you are accomplishing something and it reminds them they aren't.
Keep up the good work - it means you're doing the right thing!

~SW: 278 CW: 165~
RNY 1/5/2005
"What got you here won't get you there."

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I said previously in another post that a woman at my work keeps commenting "oh, you've lost weight". One day I got pissed off with it and looked at her and said back "Oh, it looks like you've gained weight". That shut her gob pretty quick.
Commenting on someone's weight is like saying "Oh, you finally got rid of that hump on your back" or similar. Your healthy weight loss is none of their damn business. I have told the people I feel I want to tell but other than that it's not up to anyone else to comment on my weight, or any other part of my anatomy/appearance.
Lol

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Tell them that you are terribly ill and should donate to your GoFundMe, use the money for plastics later lol
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I said previously in another post that a woman at my work keeps commenting "oh, you've lost weight". One day I got pissed off with it and looked at her and said back "Oh, it looks like you've gained weight". That shut her gob pretty quick.
Commenting on someone's weight is like saying "Oh, you finally got rid of that hump on your back" or similar. Your healthy weight loss is none of their damn business. I have told the people I feel I want to tell but other than that it's not up to anyone else to comment on my weight, or any other part of my anatomy/appearance.
Agreed

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Tell them that you are terribly ill and should donate to your GoFundMe, use the money for plastics later lol
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Ctfuppppp lmao...this is such a good idea.. Imao. .

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First 2? "Thank you for your feedback." Last one? "That's not an appropriate question." All said with a neutral and calm voice.
All of the above? Walk away after the reply. It is the perfect "end of discussion" statement.
It's their jealousy talking - they are projecting what they AREN'T doing at you. They see you are accomplishing something and it reminds them they aren't.
Keep up the good work - it means you're doing the right thing!

~SW: 278 CW: 165~
RNY 1/5/2005
"What got you here won't get you there."

Thank u so much. I needed this

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