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My libido was alright until a few months ago when I started taking Zoloft and Zyprexa to treat my depression and schizophrenia. Now it's so bad that my fiance is considering leaving me because I literally have no sex drive, and low energy. I WANT to have sex...but the desire isn't really there. I've had hormonal issues that predate my VSG surgery nearly 18 months ago. I knew that I'd have issues, but never this serious. Besides going to my GYN, is there anything I can do on my own to help increase my libido? The doctor also mentioned that my Vitamin D levels were quite low and suggested I take Vitamin D3. I haven't been taking Vitamins at all due to the cost. If I don't get help soon, me and my fiance will be heading to splitsville...with no chance of ever reconciling. He acknowledged that it was the psych medications on top of the hot weather here in New York that's causing my issues. Any suggestions, tips and/or advice will be gladly appreciated.

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Have you started Vitamins and perhaps spoken to the psychiatrist who prescribed your meds? It sounds like a frank conversation with your doctors is in order. I would include your fiance in those discussions so he can perhaps understand whats going on with you. If he feels like this is too hard for him to handle when you are at your worst.. does he really deserve to be in your life when you are at your best?

You have the answers you need already, you just need to take action. I do wish you the best.. life changing surgery on top of mental health issues is not an easy road to take. Keep your chin up, you can do this.

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I stopped taking them due to high costs (I'm low income). He doesn't think I need to take any, which has been an big issue since we started dating. I don't think he really understands what it's like to be with a WLS patient and if we break up, then I'll know that he truly wasn't the right man for me. We've discussed my issues many times and he admitted my issues are very hard and on him, that he doesn't know what to do anymore. I need to find Vitamins that won't hurt my pockets. I've already discussed my problems with the psychiatrist and there is nothing they can do for me due to my VSG surgery. I was told to seek alternative remedies to help me. Now I'm beginning to regret having surgery and I wasn't feeling like this before.

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Zoloft is killing your sex drive, I am not suggesting no medication but maybe something else - ask your doctor. As far as Vitamins - some doctors allowed 2 Flinstone's chewables and they are relatively cheap at Walmart.

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On 08/03/2018 at 11:53, Sosewsue61 said:



Zoloft is killing your sex drive, I am not suggesting no medication but maybe something else - ask your doctor. As far as Vitamins - some doctors allowed 2 Flinstone's chewables and they are relatively cheap at Walmart.< br />


Second this statement. Zoloft will suck the sexy right out of a person. Ask whichever provider prescribed the Zoloft to change it to something different.

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21 minutes ago, Sosewsue61 said:

Zoloft is killing your sex drive, I am not suggesting no medication but maybe something else - ask your doctor. As far as Vitamins - some doctors allowed 2 Flinstone's chewables and they are relatively cheap at Walmart.

This!!! I was on it for a few months back in the 1990s and it was so bad I would not even masturbate... Most SSRI medications have sexual side effects. Talk to your doctor about it.

And, if he is only sticking around for the sex, are you sure he's the right guy?

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