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Not near-death per se, but I did become unresponsive after too many iv drugs. Also my hemoglobin dropped to 5.9. That was quite frightening given my anxiety leading up to it.

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If your trauma comes with a side of PTSD, don't beat yourself up about suddenly having mood swings or crying jags. There are tons of insane little cues that your brain remembers from the time you were terrified and it hard-wires them into reactions (which makes sense evolutionarily, I guess). For me, the click of a door behind me or the sudden realization that there was someone with me in an enclosed space would instantly throw me into high-adrenaline reaction mode, even if I was in the safest environment in the world. It took a fair amount of EMDR therapy to rewire me.
So don't be too harsh on yourself with involuntary reactions like crying. Sometimes your unconscious brain and chemicals just hijack you after trauma.

The crying involuntary stopped thank god because I had a crying episode at vons the one day because they were out of something I needed. It’s tough but it took 2 1/2 months for the episodes to stop


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I had a near death experience but mine brought me into deeper peace, and anchored me for the rest of my life. Mine happened when I was 16.

I won’t share the details on this forum but to me, considering the grave circumstances, it was a miracle.

There was also a very spiritual aspect that I can only describe as a collective conscience, as I basically died.

Without getting too philosophical, I think the fear happens when we have not made peace with the idea of death and/or the leaving behind of loved ones. It’s akin to crying when a loved one dies, we are really crying due to our own loss. They are not suffering. Two opposites of the same coin.

Once I was in a plane headed from Arizona to California and the thing took a nose dive that left the cabin screaming. I sat quietly with my hands folded on my lap just after a mild panic, and thought, ‘well, it’s a moment in time if I die.’

I’m a realist. To the point I examine all facets of living and dying.

At sixteen I was already acquainted with death and was objective about it. Yes it still makes me sad but not really. I feel sad I won’t see them alive again but my experience when I was sixteen makes it hard for me to not see death as a transition, much like birth is. And the experience forever remains my guarantee that death is just another journey for us all, a really exciting and peaceful, wondrous journey.

Maybe time to examine your heart and ask yourself what it is you haven’t made peace with or what frightened you? Was it the idea of pain, of your family grieving, or something else? Or all of it?

I hope you will be ok. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.








I really like your posts it resonates with me thank you for sharing


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I had my sleeve in July 2017 and nearly died from Embolism Of The Lungs few days later. I was hospitalized for 18 days. Scariest moment of my life!

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Well during my first attempt at surgery for a gastric sleeve my lung collapsed as soon as I was given anaesthetic. The surgical team had to induce a coma on me and stick me in a intenstive care unit to find out what was up with me. Turns out I had a shadow on my lung which was caused by a case of pnemonia I had no idea I had caught.

I was in the right environment for my lung to collapse. I was well looked after and as soon as my shadow went (after a good dose of strong antibiotics) I was rebooked for surgery. So it may not seem like a near death experience but I do consider myself very lucky - because if I was in a car accident or something and needed life saving surgery, the same thing would have just happened and the surgeons then would probably not have been able to save me.

I must admit though when I did go down for surgery the second time I was nervous at hell about it happening again.

All went well though :)

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