Somewhere along the line ...

[lauren66 15]

In my experience, being numbers as in pounds focused was unhelpful. Once I became focused on goals such as hiking a certain amount of miles, swimming a certain length of time, being able to buckle a seat belt on a plane without a lap extension and so on, the weight started falling off. I am 1.5 years out from RNY and have lost 160 lbs. My presurgery weight was 358. I’m still loosing weight, albeit much more slowly now but I am very fit. Fitness ability, energy level, quality of sleep and many other benefits of the weight loss are way more important to me now than how many actual pounds I lost. Set some goals for yourself that relate to activities or things other than lbs. or BMI and I think you will do great. Good luck!

[JohnnyCakes 593]

from the research i've done, you basically have a "genetic reaction" to the surgery. in other words, don't beat yourself up or OBSESS (a big problem around here) about whether you lose 65% or 75% or 85% of your excess weight. the initial loss is virtually all out of your hands.

it's the long-term years afterwards that your behavior and healthy habits will determine if you keep it off. that's what you control. that's what you should focus on.

just try to be at peace with wherever you land after a year or so. it's nothing you did wrong (or right, tbh). it just is what it is. and it will be 1,000x better than where you were pre-surgery!

[Kay07 734]

On 3/22/2018 at 8:45 PM, Mattymatt said:

LOL! Let's hope I can maintain the focus. I am really scared of failing for the 3rd time.

I think you will! You've been pretty inspirational to use newbies

[Mattymatt 491]

1 minute ago, Kay07 said:

I think you will! You've been pretty inspirational to use newbies

LOL! Naw, not really. I'm just a 41 year old curmudgeon.

[Mattymatt 491]

5 hours ago, JohnnyCakes said:

from the research i've done, you basically have a "genetic reaction" to the surgery. in other words, don't beat yourself up or OBSESS (a big problem around here) about whether you lose 65% or 75% or 85% of your excess weight. the initial loss is virtually all out of your hands.

it's the long-term years afterwards that your behavior and healthy habits will determine if you keep it off. that's what you control. that's what you should focus on.

just try to be at peace with wherever you land after a year or so. it's nothing you did wrong (or right, tbh). it just is what it is. and it will be 1,000x better than where you were pre-surgery!

Now those are some words to live by, man! Great post!

[Kay07 734]

5 hours ago, JohnnyCakes said:

just try to be at peace with wherever you land after a year or so. it's nothing you did wrong (or right, tbh). it just is what it is. and it will be 1,000x better than where you were pre-surgery!

<3 this reply!

[Frustr8 7,886]

Never strive to be average, it's just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.
Just a wise thought for your todays.🌈😜

[Mattymatt 491]

2 hours ago, Frustr8 said:

Never strive to be average, it's just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.
Just a wise thought for your todays.🌈😜

I am fine with being average. I've spent my whole life living with a Type A personality driving me hard and very unhealthy. For the first time in my life, I am just comfortable in the middle of the road.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Well I still don't want to be "average", I am holding out for awesome, because I am proud of ME and the things I have already accomplished. I am better than I was ever given credit for!