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Has anyone else had jealous or unsupportive friends when you’ve told them about your plans for weight loss surgery?

My very best friend was actually mad at me because we are going on a cruise in August (surgery is May or June). She’s trying to lose weight and doesn’t qualify for surgery so I think that’s the underlying issue. I have stopped talking to her about my surgery because I don’t want to hear her negativity.

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I’m sorry to hear that. My best friend has been through several diets with me and while I have continually failed, she has been very successful the last two years. She was the first person I told when I started considering wls. She doesn’t think I need it and thinks I’d be successful if I try what she has been doing. But even though she wouldn’t choose it for me she always supports me. I hope your friendship stays strong through your surgery. Find another person to be your support for this and try not to let it get in the way of a great friendship. Good luck and enjoy your cruise this summer!


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My family and best friend have been amazing, but I have one very dear friend...who threw a negative schit fit. Really surprised me. People can be weird. I'm sure he's not jealous..lol..but he's one of those people who needs to be right and I think the surgery scared him. But yeah, he kinda blew a gasket about it and I needed to make some distance for a while. I need supportive people around me, not stubborn naysayers.

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I think one of my friends is jealous. She hasn't said anything, but I just get the impression. I don't let it bother me. I did this for my health, and I don't owe her an explanation or apology. I have worked hard for what I have achieved, and as you all know, it's definitely not the easy way out that some people think it is. My attitude is that my friend can either deal with her issues, or she can move on. Either way, I'll be over here, living life. :)

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