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I can totally relate to this. When people aske me if I will lose more weight, and I tell them that i still have to lose 19 pounds they start saying that I'm ok that I don't need to lose more weight and go on and on.....

At first I noticed that people where really happy for me, but as I'm reaching my goal some people are starting to make comments that sounded more like jelousy or envy..... even people who are thin and mostly women.

EXACTLY, it is starting to make me mad, but as Eddie said, WE will get the last laugh.

I despise lying, but the next time someone says, you aren't going to lose any more are you? I am going to say, "I am pretty much done." Change subjects.

But you know my MIL is the only one really bothering me at the moment. I purposefully do not make many mommy friends at the school where my 3 kids go. My real friends are behind me 100%. A sign of a true friend.

I guess when you/we are the 'fat girl'. It becomes uncomfortable for some when we lose and get near our healthy BMI. It is a really interesting phenomenon isn't it? No one would want us to ALMOST quit smoking, or ALMOST kick a drug habit, or ALMOST get cured from cancer just so THEY can continue to feel superior.

Interesting, verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry interesting.

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............and BTW, congratulate me, I broke into the 80's over the weekend, still there as of this morning, so I am calling it. I haven't been in the 80, SINCE the 80s. So I know you all will be happy for me.

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UGH. If I hear it one more time whoever says it is going to be sorry! One thing people don't think about is they do not see us without clothes...LOL for the most part anyways! :boink:

NO KIDDING!!! What about the good old "If you only did a few sit-ups"? If I hear that one more time I feel I could go "POSTAL" - You know in some small part that may be why I've been willing to show my PS pics online, even e-mailing them to a few family members and family. As some sort of "proof" to others that I really did need it. NOT THAT IT WAS ANY OF THERE BUSINESS TO BEGIN WITH OFCOURSE!

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Pst....MIL is coming for dinner tonight. I am going to dress FAT.

ISN'T THAT HORRIBLE?

I will also report later, if and what she says.

:heh:

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HAHAHAAH and BTW, speaking of the 80's. My 13 year old dressed UP like the 80's for Halloween, like that is dressworthy or semething. ;)

She wore MY old clothes and made her hair big, which for me is normal, but for her is hilarious.

Then she came downstairs and said.

"Mom, Franky says RELAX!"

That cracked me up.

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I dressed fat. I ate little. No comments, THANK YOU MIL!

No drama. I love that. Perhaps she has accepted the fact.

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I am glad that I'm not the only one that hates to hear " you are SKINNY". I don't see myself skinny, as a matter of fact, I have a problem seeing myself thin, in my eyes, I still AM FAT!!! Well that's a different topic, but at work people keep telling me to stop losing sooo much weight, I am starting to look sick, how much more do I want to lose, and the best one is: Do you have a eating problem. YES, I DID HAVE A EATING PROBLEM!!!! I have gone from weighing 255lbs. to a weight of 134lbs. and it feels great physically.:)

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I'm bumping this in order to vent about this as well. People are driving me nuts by telling me how skinny I am and telling me that I should watch it or I will melt away.

I realize that most of these people are trying to give compliments and be encouraging but some of them mean it. I'm still 35 lbs above the upper limit of "normal" weight for my height and 49-59 lbs away from my goal.

I wish I could have it both ways

comments of "you look great!" but not "you need to stop!"

ugh!

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I get this too (at 30+ lbs overweight still!), but I choose to accept it in the sense they're giving it. It's a compliment. I think it's important to remember that everyone's sense of 'normal' is getting skewed as the general population gets more obese. I'm still officially overweight by BMI, but most people would consider me an average looking guy these days.

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I hear the melting away comment too. I am slightly under 200 freaking lbs. Don't think I am melting away anytime soon. Sometimes I think people just don't know what the hell to say!!

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I keep getting "You are gaunt -- quit losing weight" from my father (the plastic surgeon). It's just not possible that I am gaunt. I am still 5 lbs overweight by the charts. I'm not quite 5'2 and I weigh in the 140s! That can't possibly be gaunt.

A guy friend at work, whom I date a little from time to time, but nothing serious, took me to lunch a couple of weeks ago to tell me I was OCD about weight loss and should really stop losing. He's right in that I am OCD about weight loss, but geeze, look what I've gone through to get this close to goal. GOAL IS MINE, darnit.

Yeah, it's annoying. On the flip side, there's a secret thrill to me for people to worry about me getting too thin. But I don't think that's a real problem I have to worry about in the 140s at my height.

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I keep getting "You are gaunt -- quit losing weight" from my father (the plastic surgeon). It's just not possible that I am gaunt. I am still 5 lbs overweight by the charts. I'm not quite 5'2 and I weigh in the 140s! That can't possibly be gaunt.

A guy friend at work, whom I date a little from time to time, but nothing serious, took me to lunch a couple of weeks ago to tell me I was OCD about weight loss and should really stop losing. He's right in that I am OCD about weight loss, but geeze, look what I've gone through to get this close to goal. GOAL IS MINE, darnit.

Yeah, it's annoying. On the flip side, there's a secret thrill to me for people to worry about me getting too thin. But I don't think that's a real problem I have to worry about in the 140s at my height.

Julie, you are not gaunt.

Gorgeous yes, gaunt no.

Goal will be ours, my dear twin.

Recently, my dh told me I could gain a little back. HA! Not happening. I told him I weight more than your average MAN. That I will get to goal, and that goal for me is 175....

Yes, my dear, goal WILL be ours.

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Funny that this guy at work is telling you are OCD re your weight loss Julie. He was going out with you prior to losing your weight, so perhaps what he's trying to say is I found you more attractive overweight. Remember there are men out there that like us chubbier girls. It would be interesting to ask him what he thinks of the new you.

I've also had problems in the past with people saying that I should not lose much more weight or I was looking too thin... mind you, I would have been around 165 lbs at the time and I'm only 5' 2". Go figure! :faint:

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this is a good problem for us to have :(

someone called me a "skinny minny" today. I have no idea what that is but I had to bite my tougne from saying "WTF?!@!? I'm still overweight! Heck I'm 2 lbs from overweight -haha"

I know its meant well but in my head while I like and need the encouragement to some degree, I don't want to slack and think "I'm thin, I don't need to work" which is what has screwed me up in the past- I could lose the weight and then went back to all my old bad habits.

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