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I was doing so well, I've lost 62lbs since my August 7th surgery. Then this weekend it just stopped and it's killing me. I know it's normal, that's what everyone says. I just want to get past this stall.

On top of all of this, I am still a food addict and am really struggling mentally. Again, I was doing fine before this weekend and then something just switched off in my brain. I haven't given into my addiction and I think I'm doing okay foodwise but the addiction doesn't go away and it's scary. Do any of your struggle with this? I found a therapist and seeing her tomorrow. Unfortunately I can't find a therapist that specializes in eating disorders but maybe she will still be able to help.

Just needing some encouragement and some advice on getting past this stall. I also worry I am eating too much, I saw a post from someone saying they could only eat 1 egg for Breakfast at 2 months out, I can eat an egg and a sausage patty. I can also eat a whole cooked packet of oatmeal, a whole Lean cuisine, and 3oz of meat and 1/2c or so of sides. Is this too much?

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The addiction will never go away, I am 15 years out and struggle daily. Let me tell you about me. Started out 250 did well for a while...got down to 175 then started with diet coke then started with diet coke (another addiction) eating almost what ever I wanted...even though it would bother me....gained up to 229. By this time about 6 year out started getting sick all the time...by continuing to "not eat right" I developed reactive hypoglycemia also became lactose intolerant. If I eat anything fried my blood sugar will go way up then drop very fast..makes me weak, sweaty legarthic and ALMOST unable to function. My blood sugar has gone as low as 37, did not pass out but barely made it to get my glucose go bring back up. I have also developed ISBO...intestnial small bowel overgrowth and am having to take 3 different antibiotics (cyclic rotate each month) everyday for the rest of my life! I believe in my heart had I done what I was suppose to do, eat right, exercise take meds, that I would not have these problems. I am doing better, down to 185. Not complaining or preaching, just want you to know what CAN happen.

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I am a food addict as well and can relate. I am also a recovering alcoholic and suffer from Major Depressive Disorder. I wish I had some words of wisdom but I do not, just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I am about 10 weeks out, feel free to PM if you want to chat.

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Hey buddy! I see we have the same surgery date! I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I am here to reassure you that WE ARE ALL ADDICTS, and WILL ALWAYS BE ADDICTS. We didn't get to where we were by eating the right foods in the right quantities. I have experienced the same thoughts that you are experiencing now. I have had stalls at 3 weeks and 6 weeks.

As far as these feelings and cravings, I've been there as well. You know what it is? When we are constantly losing weight, we tend to want to do anything and everything for that to continue. Once we see that we are working hard, but that scale is not moving (or moving in the wrong direction), we tend to think about all of the sacrifices we are making...Sacrifices with food. It can even get to the point of us feeling sorry for ourselves. Once those thoughts appear, it is easy to sabotage ourselves with food. I don't know how many times in my adult life that I have struggled with this. Food always won unfortunately.

You are fine though. You have lost 62 pounds in 2 1/2 months. That is truly AWESOME! The important thing to remember is that your journey is never ending. It is not a race or even a marathon. There is no finish line. Once you reach goal (AND YOU WILL REACH GOAL - SAY IT WITH ME!), you are going to have to maintain. You are still going to have to eat well. You may have to continue to exercise. That is okay.

This is your new life. The struggle is truly real, but it will be worth it in the end. This is truly life changing event, and you've been given a 2nd chance at obtaining true health and happiness.

I wish you the best of luck, and DON'T GIVE IN!

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Hey buddy! I see we have the same surgery date! I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I am here to reassure you that WE ARE ALL ADDICTS, and WILL ALWAYS BE ADDICTS. We didn't get to where we were by eating the right foods in the right quantities. I have experienced the same thoughts that you are experiencing now. I have had stalls at 3 weeks and 6 weeks.
As far as these feelings and cravings, I've been there as well. You know what it is? When we are constantly losing weight, we tend to want to do anything and everything for that to continue. Once we see that we are working hard, but that scale is not moving (or moving in the wrong direction), we tend to think about all of the sacrifices we are making...Sacrifices with food. It can even get to the point of us feeling sorry for ourselves. Once those thoughts appear, it is easy to sabotage ourselves with food. I don't know how many times in my adult life that I have struggled with this. Food always won unfortunately.
You are fine though. You have lost 62 pounds in 2 1/2 months. That is truly AWESOME! The important thing to remember is that your journey is never ending. It is not a race or even a marathon. There is no finish line. Once you reach goal (AND YOU WILL REACH GOAL - SAY IT WITH ME!), you are going to have to maintain. You are still going to have to eat well. You may have to continue to exercise. That is okay.
This is your new life. The struggle is truly real, but it will be worth it in the end. This is truly life changing event, and you've been given a 2nd chance at obtaining true health and happiness.
I wish you the best of luck, and DON'T GIVE IN!

Thank you so much you're making me tear up [emoji24] I really needed to hear all of that today.

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I am a food addict as well and can relate. I am also a recovering alcoholic and suffer from Major Depressive Disorder. I wish I had some words of wisdom but I do not, just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I am about 10 weeks out, feel free to PM if you want to chat.

Thank you so much. I just might. It's been so hard.

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Hey buddy! I see we have the same surgery date! I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I am here to reassure you that WE ARE ALL ADDICTS, and WILL ALWAYS BE ADDICTS. We didn't get to where we were by eating the right foods in the right quantities. I have experienced the same thoughts that you are experiencing now. I have had stalls at 3 weeks and 6 weeks.
As far as these feelings and cravings, I've been there as well. You know what it is? When we are constantly losing weight, we tend to want to do anything and everything for that to continue. Once we see that we are working hard, but that scale is not moving (or moving in the wrong direction), we tend to think about all of the sacrifices we are making...Sacrifices with food. It can even get to the point of us feeling sorry for ourselves. Once those thoughts appear, it is easy to sabotage ourselves with food. I don't know how many times in my adult life that I have struggled with this. Food always won unfortunately.
You are fine though. You have lost 62 pounds in 2 1/2 months. That is truly AWESOME! The important thing to remember is that your journey is never ending. It is not a race or even a marathon. There is no finish line. Once you reach goal (AND YOU WILL REACH GOAL - SAY IT WITH ME!), you are going to have to maintain. You are still going to have to eat well. You may have to continue to exercise. That is okay.
This is your new life. The struggle is truly real, but it will be worth it in the end. This is truly life changing event, and you've been given a 2nd chance at obtaining true health and happiness.
I wish you the best of luck, and DON'T GIVE IN!

Okay that officially qualifies as the best response ever!


51 year old woman
VSG DATE: 10/28/17
5' 5"
HW: 259
CW: 249
SW: ---
GOAL: 135

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