WTF DID MY HUSBAND JUST SAY?

[hillnicole34 90]

[sleevedshereen 526]

@hillnicole34 Ugh I know my sister said the easy way out. Recovery from surgery is not easy! Doing the liquid diet is not easy! After surgery, watching what you eat and being restricted and can only eat a few bites and not enjoy a meal like before is NOT easy! People who haven't struggled with weight or food addiction don't know just how much of a struggle it has been that led you to the decision to get this surgery. Ugh sorry you're going through that. Not having support from your significant other sucks.

Edited October 6, 2017 by sleevedshereen

[DropWt4Life 957]

Man, that dude is sad. He really doesn't have your back. How can someone who loves you actually talk like that? Easy way out....You know what is the easy way out?

Having a friggin metabolism that allows you to stay thin while eating burgers, fries, pizza, candy, etc.

Never having to look at the scale and decide, I'm only going to have Water instead of the friggin beer that everyone else will be drinking at the party.

As a matter of fact, the easy way out would be to say, "f** it! I don't care about my health. I don't care about my looks. I am just going to eat what I want, and drink what I want, and everyone can just Kiss My a**!"

Tell him that the next time he wants to be intimate, you already took the easy way out, and took care of yourself. Then tell him to do the same.

I'm a guy, and probably breaking man code, but damn!

[hillnicole34 90]

Thanks sleevedshereen just neede to vent for a moment ! That really pissed me off! This process takes so much had work and determination and he knows this! He has ways been supportive so it just threw me iff when he made the comment!!! Im over it now!

[sleevedshereen 526]

@hillnicole34 glad to hear you got passed it. There were moments when my boyfriend was not supportive and other times that he was. But when he saw how strong I was after surgery and recovery, he commended me for that and apologized for the times he wasn't supportive because he realized just how much I needed his support in the moments when I was in pain, crying or struggling the first couple weeks post op.

Good luck to you and you're surgery! In the long run, you will be happy you made this choice.

[hillnicole34 90]

I know i will sleevesshereen! Thanks for your comment! Congratulations on your surgery and your progress! I 100 percent sure i made the right decision and am doing it for me and no one else! Im already happy i made this choice! Your AMAZING! Thank You!

[hillnicole34 90]

Thanks DropWt4Life! He usually a pretty supportive husband and has been through the entire process thats why it completely shocked me when he said that! May be is scared of the change that is about to come? But he’s been with me when i was small as well so i was like soooo confused! God thing for me is his comment will not make or break this process for me it just pissed me off at that moment!! Thanks for your support

[DropWt4Life 957]

Yeah, my comments were probably uncalled for, but I was just pissed off for you. I am sorry that you have to go through that, and hope everything works out for the best.

And keep drinking that Protein so help curb your appetite!

[lindabalseca 373]

for some reason the OP original post doesnt show up on my screen

[hillnicole34 90]

Yeah, my comments were probably uncalled for, but I was just pissed off for you. I am sorry that you have to go through that, and hope everything works out for the best.
And keep drinking that Protein so help curb your appetite!

No your comment were totally called for lol thank for responding and showing concern DropWt4Life its really appreciated, I’m still going strong with my pre-op just finished drinking a protein shake! I will be glad when the 16th is here not trying to rush it but this process has really been a long one

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

7 hours ago, lindabalseca said:

for some reason the OP original post doesn't show up on my screen

@lindabalseca

WARNING WARNING- bariatric pal police are lurking,

that's why you didn't see original post

@hillnicole34

sadly i missed the original post too. Must have been a

doozy to "accidentally" have disappeared.

whatever nasty comment your husband said - sounds like

you appropriately stood up for yourself and gave him

helll. good for you - WLS here i am. all set to start my

new life. speedy recovery - kathy

[Rainbow_Warrior 996]

16 hours ago, hillnicole34 said:

Whatever your original post was has been deleted.

Moderators? Or you?

[Callisto 79]

I dont know what the original post was but if he said it was the easy way out - he is dead wrong. After my surgery I looked at my husband after vomiting violently right after having surgery on my stomach and told my husband "This is so hard - nobody ever tell me this is the easy way out cause this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through."

They don't get it if they have not been through it. I mean my husband would not say that but I would say that my husband doesnt totally get it either cause it was not his body experiencing the pain.

Sorry you had a bad night with the hubby.

[hillnicole34 90]

I dont know what the original post was but if he said it was the easy way out - he is dead wrong. After my surgery I looked at my husband after vomiting violently right after having surgery on my stomach and told my husband "This is so hard - nobody ever tell me this is the easy way out cause this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through."
They don't get it if they have not been through it. I mean my husband would not say that but I would say that my husband doesnt totally get it either cause it was not his body experiencing the pain.
Sorry you had a bad night with the hubby.

Yes Callisto that was his comment! He is usually so supportive as i stated before don’t know what was up with that! It really did make me feel some type of way[emoji19]! Hope everything has gotten better for you, i really don’t expect someone who never struggled with their weight to understand what we really fo through. Im in my 9th day of pre-op diet now definitely not the easy way out! Thank you!

[hillnicole34 90]

[mention=267019]lindabalseca[/mention]
WARNING WARNING- bariatric pal police are lurking,
that's why you didn't see original post[emoji20]
[mention=303332]hillnicole34[/mention]
sadly i missed the original post too. Must have been a
doozy to "accidentally" have disappeared.
whatever nasty comment your husband said - sounds like
you appropriately stood up for yourself and gave him
helll. good for you - WLS here i am. all set to start my
new life. speedy recovery - kathy

Thanks Kathy