Relationships

[ClauDia1330 2]

How many have had problems with close relationships friends family after surgery ? Even husbands or wifes ? Does it have to do with depression after surgery? I have Read most people end up with divorce? 😞how true is this

[PrayingForWeightLoss 340]

I have heard similar stories about the statistics of divorce post WLS. My experience has been I am more horny after surgery and my husband is very happy about that. We had to leave church early today after I told him I had to get laid within the hour.

[Rainbow_Warrior 996]

59 minutes ago, ClauDia1330 said:

I have Read most people end up with divorce?

Was this a result of a longitudinal study? A sociological study?

Was it a Facebook post?

Was it part of a book? Or a thesis?

Was it in a magazine in a cafe?

What sort of veracity can we expect from the source.

[Busman20 38]

2 hours ago, PrayingForWeightLoss said:

I have heard similar stories about the statistics of divorce post WLS. My experience has been I am more horny after surgery and my husband is very happy about that. We had to leave church early today after I told him I had to get laid within the hour.

I'm guessing hubby is a fan of WLS, lol.

[FluffyChix 17,418]

2 hours ago, Busman20 said:

I'm guessing hubby is a fan of WLS, lol.

Ha! Hilarious!

[FluffyChix 17,418]

4 hours ago, PrayingForWeightLoss said:

I have heard similar stories about the statistics of divorce post WLS. My experience has been I am more horny after surgery and my husband is very happy about that. We had to leave church early today after I told him I had to get laid within the hour.

You know you're drivin' the bus to hell, right? *snort*

[Sosewsue61 3,185]

I think it has too many factors to predict reactions. If you have a really good marriage already, it likely won't have a negative impact (unless the wls person starts being a jerk). But if there are already issues and the wls person rocks the boat by becoming a more confident outspoken person it could turn into bigger problems. I think friends are a totally unpredictable variable.....there will be surprises in this group. You may see anything from jealousy to downright nastiness to genuine joy. It does change the dynamics, I have seen the surprise divorce and the 'best friend' turn into a shrewish snipe. Good luck to us all.

[gwbicster 257]

This surgery changes people. The you that is now is completely different than the old you. You need to embrace that, as do the people you are intimate with. Often times, if they can't, it leads to a split.

That's not necessarily a bad thing, as painful as it can be.

Good luck.

[njgal 535]

shrewish snipe. Good luck to us all.

Hahhahahhahaha... shrewish snipe... good one

[njgal 535]

shrewish snipe. Good luck to us all.

Hahhahahhahaha... shrewish snipe... good one

[PrayingForWeightLoss 340]

You know you're drivin' the bus to hell, right? *snort*

Hahaha.

[CJ Sunshine 241]

How many have had problems with close relationships friends family after surgery ? Even husbands or wifes ? Does it have to do with depression after surgery? I have Read most people end up with divorce? [emoji20]how true is this

Divorce rates are already high in the general population. My therapist says the people who have issues usually after had issues before. Healthy relationships are not harmed by WLS.

[jessgnc 167]

I think a lot of the underlying relationship changes happen due to changes in self esteem. If you hated the body you were in, it's possible that you were in an unhappy relationship but didn't have the self confidence to leave it. When you lose the weight and feel better, you realize that settling and being miserable isn't the solution. Or you see that your partner isn't supportive and that is a major turn off and creates even bigger rifts in an unhealthy relationship.

I think the same can be said for the opposite. If you have low self esteem and you're in a healthy relationship, losing weight can make everything even better. You have more physical interest in your partner, you feel supported by them and you're blown away by how they are there for you through the journey.

As for friends...well, sometimes people are secretly terrible people who want everyone around them to be miserable too. In their defense though, haven't you ever seen someone successfully lose weight (or any other accomplishment), and get a little jealous? I hope I'm not alone there. You may be ecstatic for them, but at the same time, you may be thinking "that should have been me." To give these people the benefit of the doubt, maybe they blurted it out before they could censor themselves.

Of course, if this happens more than once, the excuse falls apart!

[Bhageerah 161]

On 9/17/2017 at 2:28 AM, PrayingForWeightLoss said:

I have heard similar stories about the statistics of divorce post WLS. My experience has been I am more horny after surgery and my husband is very happy about that. We had to leave church early today after I told him I had to get laid within the hour.

Ummmmmm please don't take this the wrong way but if I was your husband we would have broken the sound barrier getting home!!!! You DEFINITELY would not have had to tell me twice, I think that the cartwheels down the center aisle would have made people suspicious......