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On 8/23/2017 at 11:06 PM, Rucamama said:

So I have only told a couple people about going through this process immediate family and few close friends, and I feel like ever since I told my girlfriend she has been acting different. When I told her she said she was jealous of me, and now when I bring it up she doesn't really say anything :( I was hoping for a little support from her. So now I don't want to tell my other bf bc she has made comments about her cousin who has had the surgery like "look at her Fb she posts all these photos of herself in skimpy clothes... she did it the easy way" I think she says it out of jealousy... so now I'm afraid to tell her this exciting news. Is it wrong to let her think I've lost the weight naturally? Has anyone else experienced this? I haven't had the surgery yet but it will happen in the next couple of months... should I just keep it to myself?

I've had a difficult time with this myself. I faced some backlash with coworkers several months when I was contemplating it, so it made it very difficult to talk to my supervisors. I initially did not tell them what was going on, just that I was having surgery.

I then found three friends who I knew would be supportive and told them. I finally was able to confide in one of my supervisors what I am going to have done.

Honestly, people are going to think what they are going to think. Just don't let it stop you from doing what is best for you! It is your life and those not happy for you need to check themselves.

If they are jealous because they are also overweight, perhaps your surgery will inspire them! One of my friends inspired me and I am having surgery in three weeks. We can do it!

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