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rachel_bypass    18

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Hello ladies and gentlemen as you all may know my surgery is November 17 and I've been having a hard time with support from family and friends the only ones who are really behind me is my children and I have seven The oldest is 16 and the youngest is seven so we all know everybody have YouTube pages well I want to try something different I have a brand-new Facebook page @rachelrnyandlovinit I will be doing before surgery updates live and after surgery updates live and also this is to put to try to put in place a bit more support for me after surgery so, check me out thanks everyone be blessed and also if you know of any Facebook bariatrics groups that I be a part of can you please leave the link down below⬇️

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ladygg1967    171

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I've come to the realization that people won't support you because they're envious! You're taking steps to become a healthier version of the person they're used to. If you're anything like me, you probably have a lot of functions at your home for family/friends that involve food. They won't say it, but they're afraid you won't have their favorite foods available to them anymore.

I picked up on that vibe when I heard some comments made when another family member had the sleeve.......I decided then just to discuss my healthier eating choices. Only a select few really know what I'm prepping my body for and the REAL reason for the changes.....Everyone else will just see me melt away and attribute it to the nutrional changes I've talked about and made.

I'll follow your FB page!

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rachel_bypass    18

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Yes I believe that is exactly what it is and like you say my house is the house everyone come to for functions that involve food so I just want to say thank you it all just made sense to me you are right I never looked at it like that.

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shedo82773    1,236

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Rachel I just sent you a friend request. If you are interested in a support group that I belong to just let me know.

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ladygg1967    171

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Are you in Philadelphia?

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ladygg1967    171

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I've come to the realization that people won't support you because they're envious! You're taking steps to become a healthier version of the person they're used to. If you're anything like me, you probably have a lot of functions at your home for family/friends that involve food. They won't say it, but they're afraid you won't have their favorite foods available to them anymore.

I picked up on that vibe when I heard some comments made when another family member had the sleeve.......I decided then just to discuss my healthier eating choices. Only a select few really know what I'm prepping my body for and the REAL reason for the changes.....Everyone else will just see me melt away and attribute it to the nutrional changes I've talked about and made.

I'll follow your FB page!

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And another thing, it also shouldn't surprise you that some of your biggest naysayers will fall into one of two categories: 1) skinny people who have NEVER TRULY had to see the scale continually rise, & 2) overweight people like ourselves-these are the ones who state the following: "curvy & loving it", "plus size & proud". I know all about those types of statements because at one time or another, I've said them. The people in these groups are also JEALOUS of the fact that you're embarking on journey that will not only make you healthier, BUT SMALLER (no more raiding your closets/drawers for clothes too small for you). DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE NEGATIVE NELLIES-DO YOU AND BE HAPPY!!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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