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So here I am in the midst of a 3 week stall. I eat much less than I used to, and certainly at enough of a deficit that the weight should be falling off week after week. I know this is normal, and I know it will pass. But it has got me thinking about how I felt in the past.

In the past, when I ate like this (bird-like, half portions, healthy choices) it was sheer misery. I'd count the minutes to my next meal or snack and fixate on the empty gnawing of my stomach. Then I would see the scale just SIT. STILL. No changes, no loss, nothing different, and then I would completely give up. Get in the car, drive to McDonalds, and get a 2 cheeseburger meal supersized with a coke and a chocolate shake for dessert.

I am ever so grateful for my lap band because not only is that type of binge absolutely out of the question, I don't feel miserable :) It's quite peaceful, really. Even though my loss is stalled it doesn't mean it's the end. It doesn't mean I've failed and it doesn't mean I have to go back to my old ways because it's useless living a life a deprivation with no results.

As much as I'd love to see the numbers fall on my scale, at least I know it will pass and I'll get through it, and I don't have to suffer from the white-knuckled denial I used to experience.

Just an observation. WLS is truly a game-changer.

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I agree. This has been one of the biggest revelations for me after surgery. This and how important Protein is to weight loss.

Embrace the Stall

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall!

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@@Inner Surfer Girl you'll appreciate this. I had a great first hand experience this morning.....I've sort of been bouncing around the same weight now for the last 5 days....not in my opinion a real stall, but my surgery was just 5/16 and since surgery I've lost "something" most everyday. so we can just call it a mini stall...............It just so happened that I just updated all my measurements on 7/18, just three days ago......So this morning I figured I'd just spot check a few measurements and in just three days I've lost a whole inch from my waist, another inch from my hips, and a half inch from each of my thighs!!! 3 days!! wow! I'll take that any day!!

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@@Inner Surfer Girl you'll appreciate this. I had a great first hand experience this morning.....I've sort of been bouncing around the same weight now for the last 5 days....not in my opinion a real stall, but my surgery was just 5/16 and since surgery I've lost "something" most everyday. so we can just call it a mini stall...............It just so happened that I just updated all my measurements on 7/18, just three days ago......So this morning I figured I'd just spot check a few measurements and in just three days I've lost a whole inch from my waist, another inch from my hips, and a half inch from each of my thighs!!! 3 days!! wow! I'll take that any day!!

Awesome!

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@@needtorecover Good job! Yeah before surgery I would have quit in a stall, now there is no option to quit and eating right is easy to do.

Is your weight current?

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I know, right! I have learned so much about the whole fat loss process since my surgery. I wish I had known some of this stuff 10 years ago, but when we know better we do better. so that's where I'm at now.

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This. Exactly this. You see people on this board struggling everyday with stalls. How many of those people would make it through without their band/sleeve/RNY? Almost none of us. I never would have. Looking back, that is always when I would quit. Quitting is no longer an option, so losing becomes so much simpler.

Now maintenance, that's a different story. I'm not there yet, but I worry.

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