Feeling guilty

[john925 175]

Hi everyone,

I have decided to have the sleeve done after battling with my weight for years. I just want to be healthy. When I first told my family they were completely unsupportive even though they know how much I have tried and failed to lose weight on my own. I thought I would just do it and not tell anyone but the guilt of having surgery without my mom knowing if something were to happen was weighing heavily on my conscious. Fast forward to now I have now lied and told my mom that they are recommending the surgery because they found out my hormone levels are all out of whack because of a small BENIGN growth inhibiting secretion of these hormones that aid in metabolism and weight loss that is making it near impossible to lose weight on my own but besides that pose no other risk to my health. Now she is fine with me getting the surgery and is finally supporting me. But now I feel even guiltier. ugh what did I get myself into. Any thoughts or advice?

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[Christinamo7 4,041]

I would just go forward with your surgery and life and not give any un-needed explainations to people. Wishing you all the best with your surgery and recovery.

I would want to know if one of my children were having surgery whether I agreed with them or not, so from a mom perspective I am glad you told her, but I know some people are just not safe to share things with - and that is not your fault. you are only responsible for you!

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

come clean to your mom now, and explain why you felt you had to lie.

My mom doesn't know I had surgery and she never will. I am an adult and my medical decisions are none of her business.

[skinnychic16 22]

Jt925,

You alone are responsible for your health. You choose who and what to tell. I am 2 days post VSG, didn't tell my mom either. My mom and I are both doctors. She knows how hard I exercise. But I do not expect her to understand why I did this for myself. She would consider this too drastic, and a lack of discipline on my part. Maybe I will tell her someday, maybe I won't! I had the same feelings of guilt going in to surgery, now it's almost time to go home!

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[kmorri 1,689]

I say do whatever makes you feel better..........if a heart to heart with her will help do it, but if it may make things worse wait until after surgery. You don't need extra stress going into major surgery.