OH DEAR LORD!! That apostrophe in the title is HORRIBLE!!! FIX THAT:


Veterans ONLY please. One year + post op.

Please respond to this thread ONLY if you are a year or more post op. Thank you for your consideration.

Many of us have expressed a desire to have a "safe place" for vets to discuss our progress, our maintenance plans, or just grumble in general. This forum is supposed to be that place, but it's quite often used as an "Ask A Vet" opportunity which is awesome, but sort of defeats the purpose.

@@Alex Brecher and I have been tossing around ideas on how to better suit the needs of us oldies but goodies.

We can restrict the forum by post number.

We can restrict it by time registered on this site.

We can restrict it by time post op.

It's MY opinion that post number isn't working. Time post op makes most sense, but people can easily lie. I truly think we can sniff those people out, so this is MY first choice. The third option also makes sense if we say they have to be here 18 months of so. That would give them 6 months of pre-op diet time and then a year post op. Of course, Alex can make exceptions on a case by case basis.

Please chime in with your opinions!!

If you don't like the idea of a Vet's Only Forum, that's OK, too. You don't have to utilize it, but you are more than welcome to.

Like it was stated before, we already have a veterans forum.

Are you asking Alex to put a stop to anyone posting in this forum who isn't 18 months post op? Or are you asking to start a new vets forum?

I don't want a new one started. I think there are too many already. ( forums)

If there is a way to stop anyone from posting in the current vets forum unless they are 18 months post op, then I am all for that.

I agree that there are too many forums. The idea is to restrict who can post here.

I want a forum exclusively for albino, dwarf, lesbian, Eskimo women who are vegetarians, are cross-eyed and have a lisp.

But alas, I will be excluded from that group, I don't have a lisp.

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I want a forum exclusively for albino, dwarf, lesbian, Eskimo women who are vegetarians, are cross-eyed and have a lisp.

But alas, I will be excluded from that group, I don't have a lisp.

I'm pretty sure we have that already....

I don't post a lot but I am on the boards most days. I would be open to either a new Vets forum or limiting and enforcing the posting requirements. I usually only go to the Vets forum anyway being 3 years post-op.

The results are in and decisions have been made.

In accordance with OVERWHELMINGLY popular opinion ...

NO NEW VET FORUM WILL BE CREATED!!!!!!!!


But.

That congenial, enthusiastic, inspiring, not too hard on the eyes, boy toy ... the one and only @@Alex Brecher has agreed that we DO need to enforce the posting requirements.

So....

This current vet forum will be changed to read only for those who are not 18 months post op. At that point, they can join in any and all conversations!

I will let you know when the changes are in place.

Thanks to ALL who answered.

hey..............

remember me???

can i come out and play too??

proudgrammy

@@proudgrammy

I am almost 14 months post and I agree with VETS only forum being limited for who can post. I joined BP about 7 months before I had surgery and read a lot. I read now and *like* on the posts and respond sometimes. I try to answer the no reply threads and welcome the newbies but at times it gets 'dicey' to answer some of the posts because you get called a bully, or part of a clique, etc.....so I read and move on.

I see people giving out post-op suggestions who haven't even had surgery. The OP have a large number of posts so if you just glance at that, you think they are post-op, and then you look at the surgery date and its still a few months away...

I'm late to the party but I agree.... Restricted posting but all can read. 18 months is great.

Now I just have to bookmark it because otherwise it's really hard to find subforums on the iPhone app!

Great idea @LipstickLady! Sorry to be late to the party as well--I'll look for the new forum. Presently about the only ones I read (2+ years out and still working on losing) are Veterans and Rants/Raves.

I like the 18 months, and the read only until then idea. Nice.

Thank you for all the feedback! Looks like we al(most) agree!

I would like to be included in the play group. I'm headed for 10 years and I also get weary of " can I have pizza after 3 weeks?" Also" I haven't lost any weight in 3 days".

Just a different mindset and goal.

I like the idea, but now that most people use this site from their mobile apps - it doesn't work that well. Example, i post something in the vets forum aimed at people who are a long ways out from surgery. We banter - you know the stuff that people talk about. Then, because it shows up under "new posts" someone clicks on it, doesnt even realize they are in the vets forum (or rants, or singles etc) and takes offense. This happened to me - quite awhile ago I made a post in the singles forum that offended someone deeply; among other things, she felt that my comments were not in any way helping WLS support. I wasn't posting about WLS, but of course that person didn't realize it was a specialized forum.

I am actually kind of done with it all.

I like the idea, but now that most people use this site from their mobile apps - it doesn't work that well. Example, i post something in the vets forum aimed at people who are a long ways out from surgery. We banter - you know the stuff that people talk about. Then, because it shows up under "new posts" someone clicks on it, doesnt even realize they are in the vets forum (or rants, or singles etc) and takes offense. This happened to me - quite awhile ago I made a post in the singles forum that offended someone deeply; among other things, she felt that my comments were not in any way helping WLS support. I wasn't posting about WLS, but of course that person didn't realize it was a specialized forum.

I am actually kind of done with it all.

They will figure it out really quick when they actually CAN NOT reply. As in, there is NO OPTION. I think this should be the case for the male only and female only rooms, too.

Happy to not be able to post until 18 months post op, but at only 4lbs from goal, being able to view vet forum posts would be extremely valuable.