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I'm still new to this forum but thought I'd introduce myself.

I've tried and failed many different diets my whole life. Low carb and 2-3 hours of exercise a day works for me. I have PCOS, which makes it hard to KEEP the weight off.

In November 2013 I was 227lbs at 5'8", I had a 3 month old baby that I was EBF. I joined Instagram and began my journey. Again.

I followed many dieting accounts and many of those who had weight loss surgery. I never even thought of the surgery being a possibility for me as I hadn't had health insurance in over 10 years. I just enjoyed watching other journeys.

After many ups and downs and losing/gaining the same 20lbs I got down to 195 in January 2015. In February I started a new relationship, got down to 185lbs for a whole minute.

But then I wasn't working out for 2-3 hours a day anymore or following a strict low carb diet. I started gaining all the weight back. We got married in November and I was back at 225lbs.

Once we were married and I was put on his insurance (tricare prime) we decided maybe the surgery is an option for me. I am tired of yo-yo dieting. I don't want to spend the rest of my life counting carbs/calories/macros and working out daily for 2 hours just to MAINTAIN.

The hard part is qualifying for surgery. I am barely over 35bmi. I had no co-morbidities. My lab work came back great. The only thing I could hope for was having sleep apnea.

On May 16th I went to my primary and got a referral. June 1st I had my consult with the surgeon. June 2nd I did my sleep study. June 7th it was confirmed I HAVE SLEEP APNEA. Thank goodness. Plus it was so relieving to finally know why even after sleeping 8-10 hours a night and healthy eating I was always so tired.

I am waiting for my referrals to come back for the psych eval. I have appts for the success habits workshop, nutrition and exercise lecture. I need to go do my lab work as well but no appt needed for that.

During all this I am raising a 2 year old and back to being a "single" parent. My husband took a new job in Afghanistan and he's on a 90/30 rotation. I have no friends or family nearby and each appt I have to drive my kid to my Moms 2.5 hours away. It's not easy but I'm hoping for the best and trying to be optimistic in all this.

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welcome to this group! my former husband was in the Army, so I know the joys of that sort of single parenting.

I have been very pleased with the results of my sleeve, so far.

I look forward to seeing your progress! my husband has sleep apnea. I remember well how fatigued he would be after a long night's sleep before he got his cpap machine.

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Hey there! I think we can all relate to the plight - I could never stick with a diet long enough to glean any lasting results. I had always dismissed the surgery option (not really even sure why) but then a few months ago a good friend told me she was having the surgery, so I started researching it, and eventually started the process. At first I was on the fence, and now I am 99.83 percent sure I am going to go through with it (assuming I am approved by insurance).

I have found this forum to be very supportive and informative!

Good luck!

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welcome to this group! my former husband was in the Army, so I know the joys of that sort of single parenting.

I have been very pleased with the results of my sleeve, so far.

I look forward to seeing your progress! my husband has sleep apnea. I remember well how fatigued he would be after a long night's sleep before he got his cpap machine.

Thanks so much,yes my apnea is severe and I can never get enough sleep,also bad knees.Im at my heavest of my life.5"5 258 I have dieted my whole life,envy people that can maintain weight.Im like a yo yo.Im single for the past 7yrs and think my weight has alot to do w it.My self esteem is shot.My mom had gastric bypass in the early yrs.80s she has some issues from it,but Im having the sleeve and Im sure things are much better now.Im excited but wish I didnt have to go alone.Aug 4th cant get here fast enough!!

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