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madeline121    43

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@@gingeryank congrats on your progress. Stay strong I'm sure your husband will come around. Maybe he just needs you to ask him to explain why he's acting that way? I sent you a pm.

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gingeryank    37

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@@madeline121 Thanks for the encouragement. Hubby update: our issues go beyond this one, which just happened to be my last straw. It seemed like he was either irritated with me or ignoring me all of the time. Our home did not feel peaceful or even emotionally safe. I suggested separation. He wants to work on things and has been more supportive since my suggestion. We'll see.

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bananabellyaches    3

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Hi Ginger, I had gastric sleeve surgery on April 4th with Dr. Nicholson. I'm also a professor & my weight on surgery day was 212. Yep, my hubby too asks very few questions - he says very little about the whole thing.

I do have a cousin who had the sleeve 4 years ago & I've met a few sleeved ladies - but most of my friends are shocked when I tell them. Planning on attending the next support group meeting in May @ Baylor. Maybe I'll see you there. So far I've lost 12lbs - but I just started on mushy foods, think my body was in survival mode on all liquids. Have an awful stabbing burning pain left of my belly button but the Docs office keeps reassuring me it's the double stitch they put it to prevent a hernia.

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gingeryank    37

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Hi Ginger, I had gastric sleeve surgery on April 4th with Dr. Nicholson. I'm also a professor & my weight on surgery day was 212. Yep, my hubby too asks very few questions - he says very little about the whole thing.

I do have a cousin who had the sleeve 4 years ago & I've met a few sleeved ladies - but most of my friends are shocked when I tell them. Planning on attending the next support group meeting in May @ Baylor. Maybe I'll see you there. So far I've lost 12lbs - but I just started on mushy foods, think my body was in survival mode on all liquids. Have an awful stabbing burning pain left of my belly button but the Docs office keeps reassuring me it's the double stitch they put it to prevent a hernia.

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Mane2016    16

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Hi Ginger. Thanks for sharing. I'm scheduled for 5/10 and my doctor gave me a list of groups. You may want to call your dr. and see if he/she can recommend a group. As for your husband, I can imagine that being tough but look at it this way, you are strong, brave and if you got through the first 30 days you can get through anything. This was for you. Focus on you. As women, wives, mothers we often forget about ourselves (my case) but now it's your time. He'll come around in due time.

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gingeryank    37

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Hi Ginger. Thanks for sharing. I'm scheduled for 5/10 and my doctor gave me a list of groups. You may want to call your dr. and see if he/she can recommend a group. As for your husband, I can imagine that being tough but look at it this way, you are strong, brave and if you got through the first 30 days you can get through anything. This was for you. Focus on you. As women, wives, mothers we often forget about ourselves (my case) but now it's your time. He'll come around in due time.

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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