Lost my motivation and discipline at 4 months out?!?!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

If you are bored and impatient at 5 months, how are you going to react at 5 years?

This is when the rubber hits the road.

Why not make an appointment with your NUT? A therapist? Attend a support group meeting? Go to OA (OA.org)?

I know I get repetitive on my post, but embracing the stall for me is realizing its part of the process and not something to be beaten, overcome, or outsmarted. Stalls in my previous dieting life were when I gave up or did something crazy (like double-down on the crazy dieting).

I truly believe that how I learn to do deal with this anxiety and boredom when I stall is what is going to help me be successful in both the short and long run.

Embrace the Stall!

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

Except, I don't think the OP's problem is a "stall" per se. to me, stalls happen when you're eating on plan, but not losing weight. It happens, happened to me, as the body needs time to adjust. She's, by her own admission, eating off plan and is bored. I think she needs to wrap her head around what this surgery is and what it's not. It's not a quick fix, it's not a fad diet. There is a misconception out there that you have surgery, wake up and the weight flies off your body or melts off at lightening speed. It's not that. What this surgery is, to me anyway, is a giant reset button. A chance to redefine your lifestyle, without the need to resort to fad diets. It allows you to eat smaller portions of nutritious food and hopefully curbs your cravings for crap so you can lose weight at a healthy clip. If you're unwilling to accept what the surgery is, and what it does, and continue to eat "bad for you" foods because you're bored and upset because you didn't wake up skinny overnight, you'll never maximize the benefits of the surgery. OP, I hope for your sake that you get to a point where you can accept what this surgery does, as well as its limitations and also accept what you need to do to make the tool work for you. You've had some good suggestions: a support group through your surgeon's office or the local hospital; OA, therapy. All these suggestions are good weapons to have in your ongoing fight against obesity. Good luck!

I posted it because there is more to the post than just dealing with stalls: especially important is the part about assessing where you are and where you want to be, seeking help, and reevaluating how well you are following your program.

I thought it might be helpful.

[Babbs 14,681]

I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said, but I do have to say this.

DAMN there are some smart people in this forum that know what they are talking about!

[stacyrg2 350]

If you are bored and impatient at 5 months, how are you going to react at 5 years?

This is when the rubber hits the road.

Why not make an appointment with your NUT? A therapist? Attend a support group meeting? Go to OA (OA.org)?

I know I get repetitive on my post, but embracing the stall for me is realizing its part of the process and not something to be beaten, overcome, or outsmarted. Stalls in my previous dieting life were when I gave up or did something crazy (like double-down on the crazy dieting).

I truly believe that how I learn to do deal with this anxiety and boredom when I stall is what is going to help me be successful in both the short and long run.

Embrace the Stall!

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

Except, I don't think the OP's problem is a "stall" per se. to me, stalls happen when you're eating on plan, but not losing weight. It happens, happened to me, as the body needs time to adjust. She's, by her own admission, eating off plan and is bored. I think she needs to wrap her head around what this surgery is and what it's not. It's not a quick fix, it's not a fad diet. There is a misconception out there that you have surgery, wake up and the weight flies off your body or melts off at lightening speed. It's not that. What this surgery is, to me anyway, is a giant reset button. A chance to redefine your lifestyle, without the need to resort to fad diets. It allows you to eat smaller portions of nutritious food and hopefully curbs your cravings for crap so you can lose weight at a healthy clip. If you're unwilling to accept what the surgery is, and what it does, and continue to eat "bad for you" foods because you're bored and upset because you didn't wake up skinny overnight, you'll never maximize the benefits of the surgery. OP, I hope for your sake that you get to a point where you can accept what this surgery does, as well as its limitations and also accept what you need to do to make the tool work for you. You've had some good suggestions: a support group through your surgeon's office or the local hospital; OA, therapy. All these suggestions are good weapons to have in your ongoing fight against obesity. Good luck!

I posted it because there is more to the post than just dealing with stalls: especially important is the part about assessing where you are and where you want to be, seeking help, and reevaluating how well you are following your program.

I thought it might be helpful.

I couldn't agree more with the points you raise in this post. I just wanted to point out, in my opinion, that what the OP was going through was different from a stall. In my mind, a stall is not the result of your own behavior but is the result of nature taking a much needed break. I do believe the post is helpful for the OP in terms of realistic goals and following the program. Thanks for the clarification

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[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

@@Babbs already said it, but ...

This is an awesome thread with some AWESOME posts. Thank you everybody who is doubling down on the importance of staying focused and patient.

My big epiphany on the WLS path has been that I must focus FIRST on my own self-care -- rather than everyone else's. I've spent a lifetime taking better care of EVERYBODY than myself. Believe me, I'm really good at taking care of everybody. But I never got good at taking care of ME.

Not saying that's the OP's problem. Am just testifying.

[stacyrg2 350]

@@Babbs already said it, but ...

This is an awesome thread with some AWESOME posts. Thank you everybody who is doubling down on the importance of staying focused and patient.

My big epiphany on the WLS path has been that I must focus FIRST on my own self-care -- rather than everyone else's. I've spent a lifetime taking better care of EVERYBODY than myself. Believe me, I'm really good at taking care of everybody. But I never got good at taking care of ME.

Not saying that's the OP's problem. Am just testifying.

Preach it, VSGAnn! That was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn. Once you make this decision, you need to put yourself first. It's not selfish, it's self preservation. There is a woman I see at the same salon I go to who had surgery 6 months after I did with the same surgeon. I've lost 130 lbs . . . she's lost 40ish. She never got the memo that you need to put yourself first, so she never did. She feels that her kids, husband, didn't sign up for surgery so they shouldn't have to suffer. She continues to feed them (and by default) eat the same food that got her to the point were she needed surgery. You know what, that plan doesn't work. This new lifestyle takes commitment and the inner strength to do whatever the hell you need to do to get healthy. Teach your kids healthy eating habits, but if that doesn't work, make two dinners, You betcha.

I know I'm hijacking this thread, but I feel it's an important message, and I'm glad you brought it up, Ann. This journey gets sooooo much easier when you realize you deserve to be on it!