Husband doesn't want me to lose any more

[Rarely here 63]

I am almost 7 months out from surgery and down around 110 lbs. I am still considered "overweight" as far as the bmi scale is concerned (26). I currently weigh 165 and I'm 5'7". Dr suggested I shoot for a goal weight of 155. I had originally hoped to get to 145, even 125....cause what the hell, right?!! Lol. Currently I am a solid medium as far as clothing goes, and around a size 8. Husband has been super supportive thus far, but is now asking me if I should be eating more carbs and stuff as he is concerned I will keep getting thinner. I really would like to lose 15-20 more pounds but the husband just seems so concerned. How do I get to a happy medium, where I feel like I utilize this tool the the maximum, without making him overly concerned in the process? I do know that I have always been able to carry/hide excess weight well, and that I always look thinner than I am, due to my build/muscle mass. But this soon out from surgery seems too soon (and too high of a weight) to go into maintenance. He is probably just used to me being overweight and this seems so quick to become thin, I just need to know how to bridge the gap between his fears and the reality of the surgery. Thanks in advance! Attaching a pic for reference.

[chrisredjeep 357]

You look brilliant but if you want to go lower then do it. Might as well get the benefit of the honeymoon period!

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

Keep losing he will get over it. Even if you tried to stop right now, you will probably keep losing anyway, at 7 months you still can't eat enough unless you eat all day to drop yourself into maintenance.

[CSchulden 61]

He needs to understand this is your journey and you're on your way to making your body the healthiest it can be. Though, I can understand his concern. Maybe he can go to your next appointment with you and your doctor can explain that your goals are realistic and healthy. Hopefully that will allow him to feel better about. You look gorgeous! Keep up the great work!!

[Thinny 30]

You look great. I actually spoke to my doctor about not wanting to lose too much. I don't want to start looking wrinkled and unhealthy so I'm ok being a few pounds over, I just want to get in the healthy range. He advises that most patients get in the very lowest of their overweight tier. Then slow it down from there. Slow it down is not eat more (so tell hubby that eat more carbs is a no no) it will just bring back old habits, He suggest cutting down on vigorous exercise. Weight loss will continue but not as fast,

I know you want to lose and I will be facing a similar situation when I get there. But in the end you gotta do you! Maybe if you slow it down he'll come around. And get a ticker or something please. You're a success and I can't see your journey. But the end result is fantastic!

[VDLT 244]

Congratulations on your weight loss, you look fantastic! I am earlier out than you (shy of 5 months) but from what I have read on here it seems some folks experience a "bounce back" after getting to their lowest. Hopefully some vets will post to let you know if you should continue losing until your body decides for you, but that is what I would personally do. I am still so afraid that I will never get to my goal (which by the way is in the overweight range).

[JamieLogical 8,727]

Do you know what your body fat percentage is? That's a FAR more meaningful number than BMI or just straight weight. I am still technically "overweight" but desperate not to lose any more pounds, because I'm down to 21% body fat.

[songsmith 334]

You look terrific. I'm only one week out from my surgery and just had to set a goal weight. I went on the low end of the healthy range for someone my age and height. I read someplace that people do gain back a small portion of the weight. I figured if I had a lower goal and that happened I would probably be happy at the new, higher weight anyway. Win:win

Hubby is probably worried about you and your health more than he is appearance. Sweet but a little maddening! In the end it's your body and your health and only you can decide where you're happiest. It's not like you can't come back up if you change your mind. Taking off those final pounds, though? That's hard. Best to do it now.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

down around 110 lbs.

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ah oh!!!

here come those #'s game again !!

many OP (including me) are soooo self conscious of a #

i think people can go crazy, overboard over numbers/scales !!!

i DO understand people want to reach that magic GOAL #

you never mentioned how you physically and mentally you feel about yourself

if you are feeling wonderful/healthy etc

maybe you should stay at your great weight

if you want to loose a little more weight to feel/look better - go for it!!

do what feels good/right for you

110 lbs down in 7 months (here come those #'s again!! LOL)

that's great

keep up the good work

kathy

congrats