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I have stalled at 40 pounds down a month after my surgery. I am eating 3 to 4 oz a meal, I am chewing everything slowly. I drink tons of Clear Liquids throughout the day, a minimum of 64 oz and yet I have been stuck for 2 weeks. I have even gained 2 pounds. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! Any advice or suggestions? I'm feeling very frustrated.

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I am just shy of my one month mark and have been stalled almost 3 weeks. I lost 19 before surgery and so far only 11 since. I put this same question out there a couple weeks ago. What just about everyone said is that my body has to catch up to the 30 lbs lost. I get that truly but am getting frustrated. I all but double my Fitbit daily step count and ride my recumbent bike about 30 min a day at a fairly quick pace. I'd like to go faster but know I've got a lot of healing go do yet so Im practicing safely. I go for second post op check Weds so I will ask about that and also abou why I am so doggone cold all the time! Best of luck to you and the rest of us who keep trying.

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What are you doing wrong?

--not realizing that virtually everyone stalls for a few weeks starting at about 3 weeks out

--having unrealistic expectations regarding how weight loss works -- it isn't a continuous process, you will have times where you stall or even regain a little

--placing too much emphasis on the scale and letting it stress you out instead of putting the scale away and having faith that if you follow your program correctly, the weight will come off, just not at the smooth, rapid pace that you want

As long as you are sure your calorie intake has not gone bonkers (you are tracking, correct?) then put the scale away for a few weeks or more and keep going. You will get there!

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@@kimb926

dear frustrated!!!

from what you said above

you are NOT doing anything physically wrong!!

you are eating, drinking, chewing following the rules

explain to your brain/head that weight doesn't fall off over night

tell "it" to calm down

this is a journey not a sprint

people take their measurements periodically once a month (or more)

some times when no weight has come off

your measurements might show you are getting smaller

one month PO you've lost 40 lbs

that's terrific!!

you did not not go to bed one night

and wake up 1 million lbs heavier

not gonna come off that way either

"hide" the scale from yourself (I've done that in the past)

weigh yourself once a week (or any amount after one week)

then you won't be aware that you haven't lost any weight over

one day, two day....

i think you are doing everything right/great

"God Give Me Patience, Just Hurry Up About It" ;)

good luck

kathy

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lost 19 before surgery and only 11 since. .

@@Jewel961

"they" say people get cold cuz you are loosing your

skin "blubber" - so you don't have as much insulation

there is no such thing as "only" loosing ie 11 pounds

every 1/4 lb, 1/2 - 3/4 etc are a victory

you have lost total of 30 lbs (pre-op, post op)

you are aces!!

as long as you (or anyone) follows all the rules

drinking, eating, Protein etc

you can't help but loose weight

it can be frustrating, not loosing as fast as you would like

DEAL WITH IT!! :D

Celebrate the 11 lbs you've lost PO

you will loose more, while you are becoming a winner

"God Grant Me Patience, Just Hurry Up About It"

good luck

kathy

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Wow you all are doing good. I think part of that occurs with Water and Fluid retention. Not only the female thing but at times my weight before sleeve would change several pounds day to day and I would be doing nothing different. I had some Water pills for my heart, can't spell diuretic, lol that would swing me silly. I have digital scales and a pee break is a pound and a half. My point don't change your plan or be discouraged! We all want the weight to fall off but I know I couldn't have done it without the sleeve. I am fortunate to watch my two sons that have had the sleeve and seen even with their half ass eating habits have each dropped well over a hundred pounds. Good luck and be proud you are trying to achieve a great purpose!

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What they said.

None of us lose at a constant or steady rate. We all stall periodically and most of us experience our first stall about three weeks after surgery.

What are you doing wrong? I don't know.

Are you:

Following your program?

Tracking your food?

Getting in all of your Protein and at least 64 oz. of Fluid?

Taking your Vitamins and supplements as directed?

Exercising moderately?

Weighing infrequently?

If you are doing all of these things then you should be fine. If not, why not?

Embrace the Stall!

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

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Remember stalls are normal. They happen. Sometimes we lose fast, other times slowly. I'm in week three of a stall. I'm bad and weigh myself daily, but instead of being frustrated remind myself what I have achieved as well as the fact that even though the scale might not be going down my clothes are fitting better than they have in almost twenty years.

Hang in there.

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