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Ok so I started my journey back in August. I was given a big book explaining the procedure,the preop diet, the post op diet stages and an assortment of other useful information as well as a consultant and dietitian I could email with any questions and I did my own research as well...

In general we as wls patients are Encouraged to ask questions before surgery so why am I still seeing people on forums asking about Protein Bars at two weeks out or fruit at three weeks.. Was it not clear that u would be on a liquid or puréed diet this early on.

Or my personal favorite I'm three weeks out I had half a hotdog and a chocolate milk I feel so sick, really I wonder why....

I'm 4 months out and I've been gaining this week, (reply stop weighing yourself) I was unaware you could gain weight just from stepping on a scale there should be warning on that thing "Warning may cause weigh gain..but seriously her issue was that she was gaining not weighing herself at that point would to me only make the situation worse if she changed nothing.

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While I understand the frustrations of seeing a question that to you may have an obvious answer, I would say that not everybody may be fortunate enough to have the same amount of prep as you, particularly if they're self funding somewhere other than the US.

Also, the post-op diet is not standardized across the board, so instructions may vary hugely (hence some of the confusion). I haven't seen the post about the hot dog and milk, but I would guess from the poster's perspective a hot dog would be Protein and chocolate milk wouldn't/shouldn't affect their body any more harshly than Protein shakes?

Yes, sometimes things that seem like they should be obvious common sense do get put out there, but given that you're right, we all are told to ask questions, perhaps try and be more patient with those questions that aren't as obvious to everyone, and utilize the back button when you can't be.

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argh, I don;t know how to edit all the mistakes I've just noticed in my typing...

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In every area of life, some people get their s**t together, take personal responsibility for their own success, and push on through.

There's a difference between those who need support and want support vs. those who are just too fuckin' lazy to do the work necessary to be successful.

Answering lazy people's WLS questions is not my life's work. I'm not paid to do it. I don't want to do it.

I'm here because this is a community where I can find like-minded people who want to lose weight through WLS, keep it off, get healthier, and stay healthier. I find good information here, some people whose online company I enjoy, and have numerous epiphanies about things I had no idea were issues for me.

That's why I'm here.

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argh, I don;t know how to edit all the mistakes I've just noticed in my typing...

Lol it's ok, we know what you mean

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Not everyone is provided with the same amount of pre-op information that you were. I've seen quite a few posts from people who had surgery outside of the US and didn't have a nutritionist or even help from their surgical team once they got back to the states. There are also a lot of people who may be self-pay and don't have all those resources you had.

I have had a great team but unfortunately, the packet of information they gave me was pretty flimsy. I'm only four weeks post op and I have had to call my doctor at least 6 times with questions that weren't answered anywhere in my paperwork. Not everyone will be fortunate enough to have a doctor they can call so easily so this forum may be their only resource.

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Not everyone is provided with the same amount of pre-op information that you were. I've seen quite a few posts from people who had surgery outside of the US and didn't have a nutritionist or even help from their surgical team once they got back to the states. There are also a lot of people who may be self-pay and don't have all those resources you had.

I have had a great team but unfortunately, the packet of information they gave me was pretty flimsy. I'm only four weeks post op and I have had to call my doctor at least 6 times with questions that weren't answered anywhere in my paperwork. Not everyone will be fortunate enough to have a doctor they can call so easily so this forum may be their only resource.

This exactly.

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argh, I don;t know how to edit all the mistakes I've just noticed in my typing...

You should just be able to highlight it and then tap the "edit" button that appears. After you edit it, save it, and your changes will appear.

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Nice! Thank you, I was looking for an edit button but didn't realise you had to select the text first.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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