Help! I know I shouldn't, but I am...

So some of you are aware that I have a 12 month insurance program. During this time I've lost 40lbs. I graduate on September 30th and have a surgery date of October 19th!!!

With that said, I know I shouldn't have food funerals, but now that I'm a month away I find myself saying...I want to make sure I have X before my surgery!

I monitor my weight and I'm not gaining. I am definitely not eat as large of portions, but I need help changing my mind set! I know I'm not saying goodbye to smoked BBQ and grilled chicken wings for forever...

Edited September 19, 201510 yr by linzlou2000

This will be the first thanksgiving without grandpa who pretty much raised me. I don't know what I'm going to do this year. My surgery is tentatively scheduled for that week and I wonder what my family will say about it. Knowing he'd say to just screw them all and focus on me.

Your grandfather is right! Focus on you.

I wish I would of had food funerals, it would have made it easier.

WLS gives restriction so we can't consume as much at a meal, not that we can never eat the foods we enjoy ever again (just eat them in moderation and not frequently).

To each their own, but why add more weight to yourself that you will need to lose? Also, it is good to prepare for your post WLS lifestyle change and to stop the bad habits that got us to this point.

I wish I would of had food funerals, it would have made it easier.

How so?

I have come up with a reward program.. Eat the right things all week and have a cheat meal on the weekend.

Thanksgiving will be difficult since I will be a day shy of 3 weeks post op. I'll still help the family cook, but my meal will be in line with what my post-op plan allows. I can always have turkey some other day.

I have come up with a reward program.. Eat the right things all week and have a cheat meal on the weekend.

It's MY opinion that there is no such thing as a "cheat". It's a CHOICE.

I didn't have "food funerals" but I did eat things I enjoyed within reason before surgery. After all the pre-op work there was no way in the world that I wanted to gain weight. I remember feeling a real sense of accomplishment that I could eat modest amounts and have my weight stay stable.

I didn't have "food funerals" but I did eat things I enjoyed within reason before surgery. After all the pre-op work there was no way in the world that I wanted to gain weight. I remember feeling a real sense of accomplishment that I could eat modest amounts and have my weight stay stable.

I think this is more what I meant; however, it is paired with some mixed emotions about missing food for a time.

Edited September 24, 201510 yr by linzlou2000

My surgery is October 19th also, so I start my liquid diet on October 5th.

One of my coworkers has been very successful with his sleeve. He lost 200 pounds and is maintaining his goal weight. When I asked him about food funerals, he said, "eat your favorite meals, throw a funeral for your old fat self and Celebrate a life well lived! That is the mentality I went in with and it has served me well – no looking back."

I know everyone is different, but I have been having my food funerals - guilt-free. I haven't gained weight, or binged, but if I feel like eating something, I do. Monday I'm going to start weaning myself off my Coke Zeroes and caffeine, and trying out different substitutes.

Other people have different approaches and that's fine. It's nice to read the boards and get advice and encouragement from others, but in the end this is a very personal journey. You should do what you feel is right for you.

Best of luck to everyone!

BTW, If anyone wants to join a Facebook page for October 2015 sleevers, please message me your email address.

This weekend is my "time" for food funeral. I start 2 week liquids on 9/29. I had been doing a portion of the liquid diet for about a week. Went out for Italian last night. Ordered Fettuccine Alfredo and couldn't even eat it all. Came home and was in a "carb coma". I realized how much I dislike feeling like that. I discovered I am soooo ready for this change! Good luck to you all!!

I'm discovering that too.. I want it and then when I get it im unhappy. I think this is a good thing I think it means your ready. I am excited for you to have your surgery and can't wait to follow your progress. Good luck on your two week liquid diet.

Me too.

I am definitely eating some foods that I will miss...however I am a little nervous because my doc doesn't want me to do a preop diet as she feels if I lose to much weight that the hospital won't let her do the surgery. But then I keep thinking I don't want her to have a hard time with my liver....I am terrified of complications.