Help! I know I shouldn't, but I am...

So some of you are aware that I have a 12 month insurance program. During this time I've lost 40lbs. I graduate on September 30th and have a surgery date of October 19th!!!

With that said, I know I shouldn't have food funerals, but now that I'm a month away I find myself saying...I want to make sure I have X before my surgery!

I monitor my weight and I'm not gaining. I am definitely not eat as large of portions, but I need help changing my mind set! I know I'm not saying goodbye to smoked BBQ and grilled chicken wings for forever...

Edited September 19, 201510 yr by linzlou2000

I quit my beloved caffeine and carbonated drinks 3 weeks ago (still dealing with withdrawal symptoms). I'm not allowing myself that even during my food funeral. I agree with you @@Pipsqueak, don't put yourself in a position for withdrawals. But I don't think that having your favorite foods one last time is going to hurt as long as you stay away from the stuff you are addicted to or could suffer withdrawal symptoms.

Congratulations on your weight loss so far.

Instead of saying goodbye to foods in quantities that helped you get to the weight you presently are, how about having a pre WLS food funeral where you eat those same foods but a small portion the way you will at the appropriate time, post WLS?

Those foods can still be enjoyed occasionally and in moderation after the surgery.

Make it an over eating funeral, that is say goodbye to overeating by eating only a small portion.

Edited September 20, 201510 yr by 4MRB4PHOTO

I've def used the last 12 months to say goodbye bad habits and hello to new life long habits. I gave up ALL soda September 2014. I switched to carbonated Water for a short time, but I've been fizzy free for about 10 months. Additionally, I've gotten my over eating under control, well as much control as I can have before I get my tiny tummy. I don't see eating post surgery portions as an option as there is no way possible I'd be satisfied. I consistently log my food and count calories. More recently, I consistently drink 64+ oz of water daily. I also do not have any Pasta and potatoes as sides. My family still eats them, but I don't put them on my plate. I've made lots of positive changes to help me be successful next month. I also joined a gym. I'm walking/slow jogging 2miles on the treadmill and biking 5 miles two times a week when I go to the gym.

Thanks for the encouragement. You're right. It's not forever, just temporary. The foods in "worried" about missing are Protein. I'll just be taking a vacation from them.

I quit my beloved caffeine and carbonated drinks 3 weeks ago (still dealing with withdrawal symptoms). I'm not allowing myself that even during my food funeral. I agree with you @@Pipsqueak, don't put yourself in a position for withdrawals. But I don't think that having your favorite foods one last time is going to hurt as long as you stay away from the stuff you are addicted to or could suffer withdrawal symptoms.

I'll give up carbonated drinks and for an Irishman to give up beer is HUGE, but I will not give up caffeine! They will pry my coffee from my cold dead hand! Actually, it's either coffee or 5 hour energy.

Edited September 20, 201510 yr by Radar

I said goodbye to the world of food with a trip to fogo de chao. Yum! I laugh now, cause I can still do restaurants, I just have to make better choices and I have more left overs!

Yum!

My last meal before my pre-op diet will be a big filet-migon.

Yum! We had steak and shrimp last night.

Edited September 20, 201510 yr by linzlou2000

Help! I know I shouldn't, but I am...

So some of you are aware that I have a 12 month insurance program. During this time I've lost 40lbs. I graduate on September 30th and have a surgery date of October 19th!!!

With that said, I know I shouldn't have food funerals, but now that I'm a month away I find myself saying...I want to make sure I have X before my surgery!

I monitor my weight and I'm not gaining. I am definitely not eat as large of portions, but I need help changing my mind set! I know I'm not saying goodbye to smoked BBQ and grilled chicken wings for forever...

I'm having surgery the same day! I've also had a few 'food funerals' and I think we're okay. There's something free'ing about eating what you want guilt-free and enjoying it for what it is.

I've also been noting how I feel after I eat unhealthy treats and it makes me look forward to the changes I'm going to be making.

We will remember the wonderful flavours and the enjoyment of the food we let go, but we will also remember how full and heavy and sometimes just awful those food choices made us feel.

We're saying goodbye- thus the 'funeral' part. I wouldn't worry. I think it's a normal and healthy part of the process.

And good luck with your surgery!

Thanks for your encouragement. Keep me posted on your surgery! We can be buddies!!!

Yeah, don't do it. You're just going to gain weight that you're going to have to turn around and lose. I had a mini food funeral. By the second day I snapped out and had gained three pounds. Two months after my surgery I was depressed and crying because I was at a stall and the weigh wasn't coming off fast enough. See where I'm going with this?

I didn't do the food funeral thing and I don't regret it at all. I figured I had eaten my share of food in my life (and the share of several other people) and I didn't want to have to re-lose any weight I gained by doing so.

For me, a yummy meal brings thirty minutes or so of "joy" and weight gain brings days/weeks/months of misery trying to re-lose it.

Don't do it all during your designated pre-op. That is the time to shrink your liver and stamp in new habits and norms into your lifestyle. That said, as long as you don't make yourself ill or disqualify yourself from surgery by doing it, just do it. I had numerous last suppers and spent a good bit of money traveling to make it happen. All because I would rather have been glad I did than sorry I didn't. You can't hit everything, so choose a couple, and make sure you don't gain weight doing it. I am very content with how my last supper tour went, and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life in regret over not taking my last chance. Of course it's not good for you, but since we're here, we have obviously done it before. Note that every diet and exercise weight loss attempt also probably started with a food funeral. It's natural, don't be ashamed, but when it's time to stop it's time to stop. Godspeed.

By the time I had committed myself to WLS,

I hated the hold food had over me sooooo much

that I couldn't stand the idea of a food funeral.

I wanted to be done with food!

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I think some are forgetting that a food funeral prior to pre-op doesn't need to be a crappy food feast of McDonalds, Burger King, chips and brownies.

You can have a food funeral with healthy stuff. As I mentioned above I love a nice hearty steak, so my food funeral will consist of a fillet migon with some veggies and a salad. This will also be several days before pre-op kicks in.