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@sgc324:

I dump only when I screw up. Follow the rules to the letter and side effects are minimal to noon existent over time. Only returning to the worst pre op behavior can make me sick. That's the part surgery can't fix.

Long entrenched dysfunctional eating patterns come and go. However, I don't find myself wanting what others are having. It's quite the opposite. Obesity related eating disorders strike when I'm alone in my own head. Weight loss it's tough but behavioral change is even tougher.

I'll always be obese though I fight the disease in a smaller size. Frequent dumping is much less common than most folks think. Consider yourself lucky if you dump. It's a sign you strayed from your plan but can't be relied upon for control.

To dump when following the rules is rare. My caste Iron pouch allows lots of damage before my system rebels. If I dumped more I would stray less.

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You shouldn't feel that way. You are not alone. You have all of us. We will be your support system. If you want, I can send you a personal message with my number and feel free to call anytime.

Your heart is guiding you to make the best decision of your life....

Stephen

thank you so much trust and believe this app has gave me great hope and sure would like that alot i have alot of people around me that i truely want to see me fail and it was not untill i made this choice is when i realized that i am acually on my own this time .
It's my pleasure to help. We are here for you. I commend you on your decision because it is something that I just cannot bring myself to do.

I already have health issues so the gastric bypass is the only thing that my doctors are suggesting. I'm so so petrified.

noooo don't be scared lol im scared too but if it is for health we gotta do it it just think it will come and go b4 you know it no one can do it for us just to think of all the things we will be able to do with less pain ahhhhh ???????????? we gunna be just fine

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Good morning my Bronx friends. Just a check in to say hello to you and wish you a nice day.

Thank you so much for sharing your stories. Another thing that I forgot to mention is that I eat fast when I'm on the go or basically everyday which I know is not allowed. That's something that I am not willing to give up.

I am alone a lot also and its so true that we want to eat everything. I get so depressed and am so scared that if I start eating, I could become very sick. I don't want to live like that.

I can't live like this for sure but I just can't get over the malabsorption and the dumping. I don't qualify for any of the other surgeries because I've had previous bariatric surgeries and screwed everything up. :(

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No more sad faces. Get proactive. Examine why you had past difficulties and why you fear certain aspects of surgery. In short, refocus on how to succeed.

What you are not willing to give up struck a chord with me because I find myself engaging in dysfunctional eating patterns as well. Examine this issue as you consider surgery. Determined people learn to "eat around" mal absorption, dumping & restriction forcing their own failure.

Cleaning up your head space is crucial in the short & long term. Moreover it is an ongoing process just as is our maintenance diet for life as I call it.

Wanting it badly is not enough for many of us to change thinking and behavior. Terms like lifestyle change are trite to my ears. For me it had been accepting this life time daily struggle. It angers me and can make me sad which may lead me to behaviors I regret.

So "diet" is in my screen name as a constant reminder. Unpopular on wls sites; but, it reminds me to focus on self examination and awareness even as I may go astray.

Empower yourself with an understanding of your fears & mistakes. Take small targeted steps to address what matters to you. Get support where you can find it. When the whole process seems overwhelming and brings that sad face to mind think of the self awareness you've gained and how this will help you to turn things around. You can and you will succeed.

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Good morning my friends. Best wishes to you today. Hope that you are doing well and preparing for a wonderful thanksgiving.

Hope to hear from you soon and as always be blessed....

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i every one i need some help. My Dr. Gave me a referral for Bariatric Surgery i need a good surgeon im just a little scared if you guys could please help me out since im new to all of this i live in Bronx NY got here 5 months ago from Milwaukee WI im 25 years old. I have Metroplus with Medicaide i would really apreciatte if you guys could give me a hand. Thank you soooo much.

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did u ever get surgery

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OMG I am so sorry for the delay in responding. I've tried every way I could but the app wouldn't let me for some reason. I think that I can continue to respond now I hope.

Unfortunately I did not and as of right now, have no plans to. Hope that you are well and best wishes to you in whatever you do.

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