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I know my goal was to loose weight. It's become very obvious that I have lost. My face is slimmer and there are other obvious signs. I cut my hair last weekend. I guess I was not expected for what was coming next. I came to work on Tuesday and the uproar from several different groups of people complimenting me erupted. It's continued all week. I can just say thank you but I'm so embarrassed. I have never had anyone compliment me to this extent. I don't know what to say so I just smile and turn red. I'm flattered, but beyond thanking them do I say something else? How do you handle these situations?

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The more you lose and run into people who haven't seen you in a while the more those really crazy compliments come.

I actually have had people stare at me for Avery long extended time and say I cannot believe you great you look. I actually think for some, they are shocked by the transformation.

My stepdad has a new girlfriend and she hasn't seen me for 4 months. I have lost a total of 101lbs now. When she saw me,her mouth literally hung open and she told me how great I looked for over 5 minutes. For some reason I will always say, I am getting there. She then asked "you are not going to continue to lose are you"

Of course my big mouth responds yes, I am still short of a healthy weight. I would like to lose another 40 to 50lbs. Her response:

"Oh my god, I better start losing weight, I must look like a real cow next to you."

I think she meant it as a compliment but I was offended by it. Mostly because I can only imagine what she thought when I weighed 310.

By the way, she is a little overweight but certainly not obese by any means.

I am still not very good at responding. I think because I am not yet at my personal goal and I there is still part of my brain wondering if I can get there.

How weird is that!

I will say I try to take every comment as a compliment and I usually try not to care about what people think.

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It's reallyl hard but just say Thank You. And then pay it forward to someone else or back to them (not in the moment necessarily).

Congratulations! and Enjoy it! You deserve the accolades!

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TXMissy I feel the same way! It's awkward to accept the compliments! I had a man check me out the other day, another complimented me to the pointing was uncomfortable, and someone else told me she didn't believe I had 5 kids. Some one accused me of taking someone else's drivers license... Sigh... Some of the things I didn't expect!

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A year out and I still feel weird with the compliments and double takes. I forget that I look different to others and wonder why they don't say Hi to me! lol The one statement I do not like though is if they ask or if I say I want to lose about 15 more lbs and they respond, "No! You're already skinny enough! You'll have nothing left of you!". I get offended because why couldn't they have the balls to tell me to stop eating because I'm already too fat pre wls?? ugh
I am not ungrateful for the compliments but it is getting old. I am not comfortable addressing it anymore. This is just HOW I am now and I finally match what I have always thought I looked like. :)

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I struggle with the word "skinny" I hate it. It does not feel like a compliment to me. I know just my own personal issue, but it annoys me to no end!!

"OMG look how skinny you are!" NO I AM HEALTHY! I have never desired to be skinny, so I struggle to accept that I am.

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