To tell or not to tell?

[a_new_me 0]

Did you tell folks (friends, family, coworkers) you were getting the band or not? I haven't gotten mine yet and I'm thinking about not saying anything to folks because I don't want to be judged. Would love to hear what other people did (tell or not) and the reactions you received.

[kadrianmatthews 0]

You are going to be judged either way. Don't worry about. Tell who you want and don't tell who you don't want to know. Do what you think is best. I told some people but eventually I came to the reliazation that maybe I could help or motivate someone by telling them my story. Good Luck

[Guest TooLarge]

You can see a similar thread I started in May on the same general topic, within the Introductions area of LBT. The thread is entitled, "Help with Nay-sayers". There are several helpful replies from bandees who have various opinions about to tell or not.

[faithmd 14]

There are many threads around here about this. Use the Search function on the blue toolbar near the top of the page. I'd suggest you click on Advanced Search and then click on Thread Titles Only (pulldown menu) and put in words like tell or secret. There's also a poll or two around here asking if you told. This is a great question. I have told only my parents, my husband and one friend who wants to be banded as well. I will not be telling my boss, my paperwork will say I'm having major abdominal surgery.

The surgery is my business, I have no desire to have "food police" checking out what I eat, and asking me all the time how much I've lost. I'll know they mean well, but I just don't want to hear it.

[huntersmom 0]

I chose to tell everyone. I figure I was going to be judged either way. I heard so many stories from people too. You have to do what is good for you. I thought it was going to be hard to explain my pre-surgery diet.

[gettin skinny 0]

I had to reply to this. I decided not to tell anyone who doesn't live with me. The reason why is that I don't want people hanging around watching what I eat, how I eat, and telling me horror strories about someone they knew who died from weight loss surgery. Oh and not to mention the sabatogers and the well meaning people who ask 1000 questons.

I have been banded 2 months and I am glad I didn't tell.