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Hi baby256!!

I have chosen to tell people about my surgery..im a very open person and didnt want to lie to any of my family or friends. Im not ashamed of this choice even when people (including some friends) say negative things like "you should just eat better and join a yoga class" (what a friend actually said) lol But everyone is different and some people are more private..to each their own!

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I've never just come right out and told anyone - other than family. During my initial weight loss, when people would ask how I was losing the weight, I told them the truth - I had cut back on my eating and I was walking more. I didn't tell them HOW I managed to cut back on my eating! :P But anyone that directly asked me if I had WLS, I told them about it.

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Before surgery, I only told my immediate family and a couple of my closest friends. People who I knew would support me and who I felt needed to know what was going on in my life. After surgery, I don't volunteer it, but if people ask me how I lost the weight, I tell them about the surgery as well as eating low carb and high Protein and obsessively logging everything on myfitnesspal :D

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Yes 'some of us are very private"...LOL i am i told my mum and sisters one person on my job...my best mate thats it....i consider myself to very open but not that open....and if anyone asked what i did they all know i started working out since november.... :D

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Do you tell people about surgery or do you make up something?

@@bayla1212

do to physical knee problems and more - i took and early retirement disability

in other words i didn't have to contend with answering questions from people on how i lost my weight

since i stopped working at 53 years old

i told my family (4 siblings, mom, aunt, uncles) on thanksgiving day 2011 all at the same time

we rarely get together as a family (we live in different states)

made sense to me to just tell all at the same time

don't really know many people i could/would tell my "story" to

one time i started answering a neighbor about my weight loss

i told her i was eating healthier, more moderately, and exercising

all is good with me :)

good luck with your own personal decision :)

kathy

i stopped midstream when i was done talking

i looked at her

then proceeded to tell her about the sleeve

in my case (for me) i just felt too weird with the "omission" about WKS

maybe if i had many many more people to tell, it would be different

but i didn't, so it wasn't :lol:

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I not lying but I don't tell everyone I meet either. I just don't feel obligated to divulge my business to everyone who compliments my weight loss.

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I disclosed the weight loss on New Years day on Facebook, but only told those who emailed privately about the surgery. Sent link to this site to those who wanted to know more about it. There are many warnings about talking too much about the surgery to those who really don't want to know about it. So I have disciplined myself to not talk about it unless someone really wants to know.

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