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@@Grateful_Love yes brain surgery is 2 extreme....but ulcer hernia good ....THIS IS UR DECISION NO ONE ELSE ...U ALREADY HAVE ALOT GOIN ON BY CHANGING YOUR LIFE LAST THING WE NEED IS NEGATIVE PPL

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Buttercup, I weighed 198.8 when I went into surgery.. Even the nurse who walked me back to get ready made a rude comment "I guess they have lowered the standards for weight loss" You don't look like you need it. I replied well I don't know how fat you are but I am plenty fat thanks. FYI I no longer take diabetes meds , was on the verge of taking insulin, my blood pressure and cholesterol are back to normal. My mobility has improved drastically. I purposely park way out so I have to walk, You know you and you know how you feel. Doesn't matter who thinks it's a good idea or not, you are making a decision to improve your health. Once you start losing they will probably make comments as to how long it will stay off. I am 2 years out and I feel like a new woman. Love my band.

This is so true! I didn't start off telling anyway until I got closer to my surgery date, and then I was excited...thinking my coworkers would feel the sameway for me. HECK NO!!! I got...Your too Small for surgery...my PC even said to me that I probably wont get approved because I'm too small! I told him...IN THE NAME OF JESUS I WILL BE APPROVED AND I WILL NOT BE ON ANY DIABETIC MEDICINE OR B/P MEDICINE! He said well just don't be disappointed when NONE OF THAT HAPPENS...EVEN IF YOU HAVE THE SURGERY YOU MAY STILL BE ON YOUR MEDS! I SAID!!!! ...IN THE NAME OF JESUS I WON'T!!!!
I had my surgery 11/18/14 and I'm Med FREE... HIGHEST WT. 230 NOW 194......THANK YOU LORD! I saw my PC last week in my NEW SIZE 14 JEANS and said...HOW YA LIKE ME NOW!!!! LOL
DONT WORRY ABOUT OTHERS PRAY AND ASK GOD TO BE YOUR ADVOCATE!

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Hi everyone, Like Melissa160 I did not keep it a secret at all. At the time I supervised 14 patent examiners and felt I couldn't just disappear for weeks. I got nothing but support from them and my colleagues and bosses; one employee said she'd like to be next. They all were happy that I was doing something about my weight. This was in May 2012.

This week I want to lunch with my workgroup and left half of my food while everyone else had inhaled everything on their plates. No comments o anything. Maybe I'm just lucky but I'm grateful to have been spared he negativity.

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Couldn't agree more......for me telling people just put me under added pressure.......everyone expected the weight to drop off me & completely judged me when it didn't happen.......wish I hadn't told anyone except for close family xx

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I was honest with everyone. I had a hernia repair. Just didn't mention WLS

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    • BeanitoDiego

      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
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