2 days before sugery and feeling conflicted

[ireneg 4]

My heart goes out to you. Surgery is such an injury to our bodies (yes, this is for our health, and worth it) and your emotional health is at stake here. I believe that with support and love, the healing to our body is faster! You need emotional as well as physical support. I hope that you have people in your life who can step up right now and help you through this. If you don't take care of yourself and become the healthy mom you want to be, who will be there for your children?

I hope your husband has some support, too. He sounds like he has some deep seated issues...

By the way, this is the first post for me - just joined last night... I just began the process in August. Not 100% sure yet, but I'm following my insurance protocol.

You have my prayers...

[KristenVSG2014 1,872]

You need to watch Zsalynn from "My 600 Pound Life" and possibly even contact her through Facebook. She went through and is still going through the same situation/relationship.

Edited September 28, 2014 by krisrpaz

[Idahospud 102]

Thank you everyone for the feed back, I will be thinking about all this as I am going in for surgery tomorrow. I have decided to go ahead and follow through with the surgery seeing how I feel so much better being 44 lbs lighter already.... Not going to lie, I am scared as hell and still feel extremely guilty, but I am hoping those feelings will fade away after I wake up in recovery tomorrow afternoon!

[LuckyOne53 36]

I am too @Idahospud. Tomorrow is the last little final touches. Pajama party tonight. Finding liquid vitamins was hard but I pick them up tomorrow. Doing all my housework.. cleaning my car out. Just everything to keep busy. I promised to shut off my eletronics tomorrow night and have a little me time before surgery

♡♡ self love♡♡

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

VERY good news, Idaho.

I send you my best wishes for a great surgery, easy recovery and peace.

[Mrs. Reid 392]

Glad you're going ahead with the surgery! Post after you're done and let us know how it went!

[Rovobay 920]

best of luck tomorrow. we are all here for you. take care!

[KristenVSG2014 1,872]

Please let us know how surgery goes!!

[Rogofulm 2,440]

As a guy, I'm horrified by the ultimatum you were given! My guess is that he'll change his mind, at least for a while, when he realizes that you had the guts to do this. Maybe that will give you the time you need to get back on your feet as the new stronger you. I wish you the very best for your surgery and in the weeks and months ahead. It's a wonderful journey you're embarking on. Congratulations on being strong enough to go through with it! Please post back to this thread on the other side so we'll all get notified of how you're doing. You have a very caring and supportive group behind you here and we're all rooting for you!!!

Edited September 29, 2014 by Rogofulm

[5BeautifulDays 68]

If he leaves, you can congratulate yourself on having lost an additional 200 pounds of @ss.

[LuckyOne53 36]

Amen @@5BeautifulDays

[BeagleLover 1,020]

The wedding vows NEVER were, " 'Til WLS do us part!" I'm with @KarenF1972. What an A-$-$-H-O-L-E! You don't need this turkey. "Hey, don't stand behind the door, or I'll flatten you with it as I go have surgery!" There are other men who would love to be with you. That's what you deserve.

Please do this for yourself and your little ones. They deserve a full-on Mom that can play with them. You deserve to see them grow up and possibly get to know your grandchildren.

I was just sleeved last Friday. The first 24 hrs. were a bit hard--- couldn't get enough liquid down (so they gave me IV fluids - not a big deal) and threw up a little a few times. The next day I felt like a new person. Yesterday and today I actually felt normal, like nothing had ever happened. I didn't even need the pain meds that had been prescribed.

I vote for your going through with it.

[Jon1111 6]

You need to do what's best for you and your kids and that's wls.

[Jacqbult 112]

Sounds like a jerk but here is my take. My husband met me when I was skinny/er. I have gained a crap loaed of weight 90 lbs. He still loves me, bummed but still loves me, I want this surgery for my health and to be a better more active Mom. Hey, if he walks it is HIS LOSS! He will lose you the time with the kids, If he is so selfish he needs to wake up! After all is not some of the attraction because of who a person is on the inside. Do this for you and your children....

[shellyd88 463]

Hello I hope you have smooth sailing with your procedure and a terrific recovery and a fabulous future ahead of u with better health and activity with your children often when ppl give ultimatums it's because they are afraid of losing control over a situation that may change if you change by losing weight and gaining health no one who loves you and truly wants what's best for you would give such an ultimatum that sounds like self interest instead of your best interest and your children's I hope you move forward with confidence in your decision regardless and don't let anyone block your path to a healthier future for yourself and the children best wishes