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I had my surgery in March 2012 and lost about 70 pounds which was of course wonderful. I had no raging hunger and I was restricted well. I was very happy and hopeful to lose more but then in December my son who was just turning 16 dropped the bombshell his girlfriend was pregnant. Needless to say I forgot about myself and today am overseeing and raising my granddaughter. She is a blessing to us all but when I looked back up from it all I have regained 25 pounds. I know exactly why but I just feel so tired trying to refocus again. I know I have stretched my sleeve out and I have started eating fast food, sugar, and to my absolute horror sodas. I know I have failed my sleeve but I wonder if I have just ruined everything about my sleeve. It is much harder to control my eating now and emotionally I am pained about the whole thing. Just wondering if anyone else out there has gone through anything similiar?

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Watch the movie Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead. I swear it will change your outlook and give you some GREAT motivation to reboot the healthy side of yourself.

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I'm a bit bummed that my doctors scale read 255, but my expensive new freight scale I bought for myself...that is supposed to be guaranteed to be exact within 2 oz. says 245. Hmmmmmmm?!

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Ask yourself "What am I committed to?". If you are committed to weight loss and being healthy, you will make healthy choices. Every time you go to put something in your mouth-- ask that question.

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Ok, so here is the tough love you are asking for. Did you voluntarily lay on an operating table, have a perfect stranger put you in an unconscious state then have another stranger remove 80% of your stomach? Yes? So, what does that mean to you? How do you plan to continue to honor that huge decision you made in 2012? The hard work to lose the 70lbs? I completely empathize about your new shocking status as a grandmother. I currently have a 16 yr old boy. Lord help me if that news came to my door! Don't go back to putting your self on the back burner. Life is gonna keep happening, but you have to keep taking care of you. Took me decades to figure that out.

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I'm a bit bummed that my doctors scale read 255, but my expensive new freight scale I bought for myself...that is supposed to be guaranteed to be exact within 2 oz. says 245. Hmmmmmmm?!

It might be better to start a new topic than to high jack an existing topic. Find an appropriate forum and then choose New Topic from the menu.

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I'm sorry. I am new to this system and thought it was open to all types of concerns and support. Didn't realize there was only room in this thread to support just one person.

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I'm sorry. I am new to this system and thought it was open to all types of concerns and support. Didn't realize there was only room in this thread to support just one person.

It is open to all types of concern and support, but you'll probably get more responses to your question if you post it in it's own thread with its own title that fits what you are asking instead of highjacking the OP's (original poster) thread. Most message forums have similar etiquette.

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i am 14 wks out tomorrow and have found myself getting a bit lax over the last 2 weeks. I too had to sit down and re-focus my goals and get my butt going again.

the first thing i did was spend the weekend filling bags of clothes that are now TOO BIG! WHOOP!! i never thought i would see that happen.

the next thing i did was get an outfit out that was my "GOAL" outfit that i bought several months before my surgery and i guess i underestimated myself because it JUST about fits already! i realize now that i have to set an even lower goal for size and go out and get a NEW goal outfit! it will hang on my bedroom door until it fits.

next i sat down and looked over my food diaries, my nutrition sheets, etc from my pre-op nutrition counseling sessions.

i have 2 kids also and they are my total goal. seeing them grow up and marry, have their own kids, etc.

lastly, I just ordered 2 canisters of powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury so that i can once again start EVERY day with an Unjury shake (not some questionable brand from the 7-11 or walmart) AND i'm about to go and start a cooking marathon to prepare food for the ENTIRE week to take to work for lunches.

PLAN AND PREPARE are my tools for this week. i wish you luck!

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It's never too late to get back on track. Even if you don't have time right now to keep track of every morsel you put in your mouth, you can start your day with a Protein Shake, make sure you get your Vitamins and liquids, then eat good, balanced meals (only in small amounts). You want to be around to see that beautiful baby grow up! She is fortunate to have you! And pretty soo, you will be chasing after her and that will be a good source of exercise! LOL

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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