Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Am a person that always eat until I am full. I have always had the challenge of trying to only eat until I am satisfied. What is that??? Am I suppose to be hungry two hours later after I am satisfied? I also don't get the eating for fuel thing neither. I am a definite addict of food and sure I am starting formal counseling, but I am tired of asking people this they look down at me like I am of less than average intelligence. I really want to know the answer. A life long habit of eating until I am full or just because it is there.

After the Lap-Band I thought it would give me an indication of when to stop eating. Boy did it ever. After throwing up my food after I ate 1ounce of meat. I felt like how can I now be satisfied with that meal. My mind told me I was starving so I started to eat all the wrong things. Seven years later the band was removed and I am now waiting to be approved for the sleeve. A now Sleever said as a formal bander, I have to learn to stop eating. This is what brings me to that word satisfied??? Can anyone help me here.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I wish I could help you. I am two months out from the sleeve and I don't feel that restriction so many people describe so I have to just go by what I measure out as being enough. Oh how I wish I felt restriction.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had the bypass and I feel the restriction ... I was the person that never felt full and could eat and eat. I always ate so I didn't know what it was like to be hungry . Now I know both... Hungry not so much but at least I can tell when I need to eat and when I'm full

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had the bypass and I feel the restriction ... I was the person that never felt full and could eat and eat. I always ate so I didn't know what it was like to be hungry . Now I know both... Hungry not so much but at least I can tell when I need to eat and when I'm full

So is measurement of or food what we will need to do for the rest of our lives?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think measuring your food until you get in the habit of eating smaller portions is what we should aim for. I am worried about being able to tell when I have eaten until "absence of hunger" (thank you CowgirlJane). I can only hope that after surgery I can get it all figured out.

Good luck!

Summer

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

re: "A life long habit of eating until I am full or just because it is there."

many comments here really describe what I was for most of my preOp life.

With temporary changes in the 6 weeks postOp I was able to finally learn something VERY IMPORTANT that I did not know.

I'm not being flippant, and I'm somewhat abashed in how simple it really was. I spent thousands of $ and years of frustration without realizing how important this was.

Given there is 'sport eating' and 'social eating' and 'mad/sad/glad/exploratory/before/aftersex/anyactivityeating' the realization was this:

I could FINALLY discern the difference between 'hunger' and 'not hunger'.

Much of my preOp sport eating was based on then entire host of Bad Eating Habits we all accumulated over the decades.

Suddenly, IF eating were based on 'hunger' all else began falling into line.

If I couldn't decide whether I was 'hungry' or not, then the obvious reality was ---No, I wasn't 'hungry'.

That insight led to the realization that often ONE bite would take me from 'hunger' to 'not hunger'.

Etc.

Hope this helps.

Cheers on your journey.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi there - I participated in a 9 week mindful eating group just prior to my band to sleeve surgery. Mindful eating is just like it sounds, learning to be truly mindful of our experience while eating. This means slowing down (a lot), eliminating distractions like TV and paying close attention to each bite we eat - really thinking about the tastes and sensations, appreciating where that food came from and how it got to us, and observing how our hunger, satiety, and fullness changes with each bite.

Honestly it's not something I actively practice for the most part, but working on it for a few months really connected me with that feeling of satisfaction/satiety more than ever. I would recommend that you try a version of mindful eating. At least the part where you ask yourself after each bite how your hunger, satiety and fullness has changed. Satiety and fullness are not always on the same track. For me, usually I first notice that I'm no longer hungry - usually after just three bites. Then either satiety or fullness comes next. Usually I feel satisfied before full, but occasionally not. But if not, that means what I'm eating isn't really what my body wants. Sometimes I'll just change my mind and eat something else if what I'm eating doesn't seem to satisfying me.

Hope this helps some. It's really about slowing down and paying close attention to the whole experience of eating. I find it helps me enjoy food more and feel much more appreciation of all the foods available to me.

Edited by thesuse2000

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Everybody's signs are different. When I had the lap band (2003-2014) and now with the sleeve (as of Aug 5) my "sign" that I am full or satisfied is this:

During my meal I will naturally take a large breath, like a sigh. If I stop eating when that happens and put the food away, I am comfortable.

If I keep eating, a few bites later I will have a small pain in either my chest or around my bra line. You probably experiences this pain with the band - most do. That is the gentle reminder to stop for real! If I eat more after the pain, with my band it meant throwing up. I haven't pushed it that far with the sleeve. I am happy to report that I have not thrown up since July. It is a blessing to not have to scope out the bathroom at every place before you eat out!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I do Portion Control. I can eat about 1/2 cup or less..an I realize how real an true the statement is to eat real slow, put fork down after each bite an chew the heck out of it...it does help an it takes the brain 20 minutes to signal the full..comfortable or stop signal. My hubs has figured out my satisfied signal. After about 5 or 6 bites I literally put fork across my plate an push my plate away...I still end up leaving half of food on plate. I went on vacation last wk..us girls went...had no problem. ..I make sure I eat my Protein first an if I need a bite or 2 I eat the soft veggie. .Iv been making it a point to avoid drink...so I can just make the room for food..it's a learning process. ..fortunately I havnt threw up from overeating but I have almost crossed that line..a few times..bc it was a lil late getting signal..my chest got tight..I thought I was going to run to bathroom but I made it thru..haha..now I can sense when I'm done. Its not a full feeling but it's I'm comfortable. .I definitely use myfitnesspal to log everything. .it works for me. Its a process an I'm 7 wks out an I finally feel like my life has finally turned back to where I wished I had done this yrs ago! I'm 50 an loving it! Hang in there everyone. ..we learn from trial an error an others experience. ..best wishes...luv these forums...:)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Truthfully eating to satisfaction takes practice for a lot of us. I'm pre-op and in therapy for my eating addiction. Those of us who eat compulsively or emotionally can get disconnected from our bodies: we're not in the habit of listening to our bodies satisfaction signals. I've made significant progress in this area by doing a couple things.

I stop 3 or 4 times during my meals or Snacks and focus on my body. Really try to identify the level of hunger i am at during different points in my meal. Afterwards if i overeat and get that overfilled feeling, i can think back and say: oh next time I should stop here when my body feels like this.

Next time I eat, I try to listen for that signal in my body and wait a couple minutes to see if there is any hunger there. Sometimes I fail at this. But when I succeed it's amazing and I feel pride. My meals have gotten smaller and smaller (I just hand my plate over to my husband), and I'm overfilling less and less - even during periods of stress eating.

But don't forget it's okay to eat if you are physically hungry!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am 16 months post-op from RNY. I am addicted to eating. But after the operation I found that I was no longer hungry. And as a result I lost 110 pounds. Eating is now more like a chore. I am currently consuming a cup of food per meal and I cannot eat much more than that without getting sick. But my stomach warns me, so I just stop eating.

Not everyone who undergoes RNY loses their hunger but many do.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×