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I am three weeks post op. I lost ten pre surgery and ten since surgery. I read other peoples' posts and they've lost much more or faster or something. I'm 5'1" and weigh 216. I am following all my post op instructions to the best of my ability. Have others had this fear?

One concern is that I had my thyroid irradiated and I've been on synthroid ever since, but my dose has never been stable. I'm wondering if the thyroid issues would hold me back from losing.

At work there was an employee who had bypass and lost a lot of weight very quickly. So everyone is comparing me to her-- not in a mean way. They're trying to be encouraging. But in my head I'm thinking, "what if I don't lose the weight like she did?"

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3 weeks out seems to be a very common time to worry about if we will lose or not. Almost everyone is afraid of that. I was, too, but at 8 months out I'm down 130ish pounds. It goes by really fast, so don't worry, you will lose! Because you have less to lose than others, your losses may not be as dramatic, but as long as you follow your surgeon's eating plan, the losses will come! :)

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Google or search on Bariatric Pal for "three week stall." It happens to almost everyone.

Not kidding.

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I'm still preop but I wonder if it is kind of like comparing when babies will walk or talk or stand up. They will all do it, each in her own time. I'm actually writing myself some notes now to open when I get there....I might not want to read what I wrote when I'm stalling, but it might help me remember the big picture/long term....

Hang in there! You did all the stuff you needed to preop and you can do the postop too!

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These comments are good & I hope you are encouraged by them. The one thing I would add is educate the people around you what the difference is in the various bariatric surgeries. Tell them yours is slower & that it is intended to be that way. Good luck with your journey & don't allow people to get you down.

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Slower weight loss coupled with great exercise = LESS loose, hanging skin. I'd say that is a huge plus, not a negative thing. Keep pushing, keep your head up, exercise, and throw out that scale. Today. If you're like most of us, you probably have clothes in different sizes that weight gain prevented you from wearing. Take out the next smallest size and try it on maybe once per week to see how it fits. The scale can be such a terrible and discouraging thing. Use clothes to monitor your progress instead. Best wishes to you.

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My "three week stall" has gone on for a month. I've lost 5 pounds in the last four weeks, averaging 650 calories per day, walking 4 to six miles per day. I haven't the energy to run, jog or swim. Meeting with nutritionist today with a lot of questions.

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I'm back from my nutritionist who has "ordered" me to up my calorie intake to not less than 900/day and to specifically up my carbs, especially before exercise. I'll try it before tomorrow's 5 mile walk around Stone Mountain with my wife.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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