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Hi, my name is Tracey and I have spent the last year researching and getting ready to have sleeve weight loss surgery. My surgery is scheduled for July 10th. I am excited, nervous and scared. I have only told my husband and very close friend that I am doing this. (My closet is freind has been nothing but unsupportive, she makesme question my decision) Several monoths ago when I was deciding if wanted to have this surgery I mentioned to some friends, a co-worker and family and recieved nothing but non supportive responses from "why odont you just diet and exercise, change your life syle and be healther, this is to extreme and trying to take easy way out (I do not think choosing to have sleeve and having 3/4 stomach removed and getting ready to put my body and mind through many diffucult situations for the first several months as I learn to live with sleeve the easy was out) to you are not fat enough and OMG you are removing part of stomach that is just stupid and going to cause nothing but issues rest of life. Then all the negative comments about how will never live a normal life again and having nothing but problems (pain, never eat normal, nauseau, vomtting, pain, always sick. I expect some of these things in the begiining but am hopeful in time and as I learn to live with sleeve things will continually get better. It causes me great stress, anxiety and emotion not to be able to share with close family and friends. Any advice as how to move forward with this.

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Sorry to hear it. I have been lucky to have not run into the non-supportive types. I've also kept it fairly close to the vest and have only told a few people.

Is your spouse on board?

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Hello, I had the same response from some of my friends who are also heavy-set and I just had to set aside their comments and realize that this is my body and that I was going to do what was best for me. I think that their negativity stems from lack of knowledge about the various bariatric surgeries available. Try not to let it get you down and move forward with what you feel is in your best interest. Good luck to you. I am on day 6 post op and despite being unable to consume all of my Protein and fluids for the day I have no regrets. I just keep telling myself that tomorrow will be better.

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My husband is 100% supportive but I do get concerned that he really doesnt not undestand the magnitude of change making.

Sorry to hear it. I have been lucky to have not run into the non-supportive types. I've also kept it fairly close to the vest and have only told a few people.

Is your spouse on board?

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Thank you so much for that. Letting it get in my head and question if I should do this. You would do it again.

Hello, I had the same response from some of my friends who are also heavy-set and I just had to set aside their comments and realize that this is my body and that I was going to do what was best for me. I think that their negativity stems from lack of knowledge about the various bariatric surgeries available. Try not to let it get you down and move forward with what you feel is in your best interest. Good luck to you. I am on day 6 post op and despite being unable to consume all of my Protein and fluids for the day I have no regrets. I just keep telling myself that tomorrow will be better.

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Sotabee I would do it again in a heartbeat.

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My husband is 100% supportive but I do get concerned that he really doesnt not undestand the magnitude of change making.

Take him with you to a nut meeting. I took my fiancé and he's learned a lot.

Also tells me no more eating out...huh? We will eat out I'm not cooking every day lol. I'll just eat a bite or 2 off his plate :)

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When she starts making comments just tell her that you do not want to talk about it anymore. I have a friend being like that and that topic of conversation is now off limits with her. Try not to let anyone's ignorance and insecurities about the subject cause you so much distress. You are doing what you know is right for you. ;)

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I would agree with #9grammy's comments above.

My husband went with me to the day-long behavioral changes class. Then he attended my first meeting with the surgeon. I will probably haul his behind to the pre-surgical meeting. Before all that, he was on board, but the extra information really does help. I show him before / after pictures. I've told him about cross-addiction issues. I've told him how important exercise is. I've asked him NOT to be responsible for my behavior, but to be SUPPORTIVE of my positive behaviors. (There's a big difference and a bright line for me between those two, but he knows where the line is.)

He is just super about all this. But he is a super husband. :)

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There are a lot of people in this world who are absolutely certain that they know everything about anything.

They think they're God's gift to everyone else's decision-making challenges, regardless of their background, education, experience, or even simple acquaintance with a single fact. You know the kind: They never met a grey zone they couldn't categorize as black or white.

Unfortunately, I'm related to a lot of those folks. Therefore, they're not privy to my VSG adventure.

Edited by VSGAnn2014

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I am almost two months post op.... Have never been sick.... Eat so much healthier than I ever have.... Kind of forced to since you can only eat so much. I am healthier than I have been in a long time. Have dropped a total of 56 ponds and am now comfortable going to the gym. I actually feel like it is doing something where as before I would just eat that much more!! Haha don't let other people's fears stop you! The only regret I have is that I didn't do it sooner!!!! Best thing besides my kids and husband that ever happened to me!! It's not an easy journey but once you get past the post op diets ect. And can eat normal your friends will see that it was the best decision you could have made!! Because they will see that you are making better food choices so you can meet your daily requirements!! Protein.... Vitamins.. Ect.

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My husband is 100% supportive but I do get concerned that he really doesnt not undestand the magnitude of change making.

That's good. My wife is 100% behind me as well. Hopefully your hubby will get it when he sees how little you can eat.

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